In memory of my mum

Thank you all for your love and patience over the past few weeks.  Firstly I had a week off from blogging to catch up on tasks around the home and on the blog.  However I came down sick and made the decision to have another week off to finish what I needed.  However things never seem go to plan.  

Thursday night before last my mum was admitted to hospital as she started to slur when speaking along with a few other unusual symptoms.  Dad drove her straight to emergency despite her insisting she was fine.  Doctors suspected she had a mini stroke.  However the following day they did scans and found mum had a brain tumor.  Unfortunately 2 days later she had a seizure as the tumor had grown significantly and they sent her to have emergency surgery.  After the surgery Mum struggled to breath on her own and only rarely opened her eyes.  She could hear us talking to her and at times could nod and shake her head.  She was trying so very hard, however sadly mum lost her battle yesterday.  

These past 10 days have been the hardest I have ever had to endure.  I still can’t believe it as it all happened so unexpectedly and quickly.  There was so much I wanted to say and share with my mum, it wasn’t her time to go. 

I mentioned in my post about feeling the difference that somebody close to me had lost her mum and I watched as her home change, she became a hoarder.  I was wanting this person to read my blog and become inspired to live with less around her.  This person was my mum.  I know she was very proud of me, my blog and my efforts, I was just patiently waiting until she was ready.  

It maybe slow here on the blog again this week as we plan the funeral, but posting and chatting to you all may take my mind off things too.  Over the following weeks I will be helping my dad to tidy their house.  

I miss my mum with all my heart, thank you all for understanding my absence at this difficult time. xx  

Mum, my eldest daughter and I

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Katrina June 11, 2012 - 11:48 AM

Very sorry for you loss.  xx

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Katrina June 11, 2012 - 11:48 AM

Very sorry for you loss.  xx

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Vikki June 12, 2012 - 10:16 PM

 Katrina, thank you for sharing at such a very sad time.  My thoughts are with you and your family, you truly are an inspiration.

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Diamond June 11, 2012 - 11:48 AM

So sorry to hear of your mum loss. I hope you find strength to keep going as I am sure it will get easier with time.  All the best for the future!! Love xx

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Diamond June 11, 2012 - 11:48 AM

So sorry to hear of your mum loss. I hope you find strength to keep going as I am sure it will get easier with time.  All the best for the future!! Love xx

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Dana Starr Hobbs June 11, 2012 - 11:49 AM

Thinking of you Katrina xx

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Dana Starr Hobbs June 11, 2012 - 11:49 AM

Thinking of you Katrina xx

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V Blyth June 11, 2012 - 11:50 AM

So sorry to hear this. I know how a loss can affect our perspective and view on things. Sometimes what seemed important before becomes less so or it spurs us on to do things we have put off. Don’t come back too soon, pace yourself as often the feelings do not manifest for a while until it sinks in. Will be praying for you and your Dad. Again my deepest sympathies xxxxx

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V Blyth June 11, 2012 - 11:50 AM

So sorry to hear this. I know how a loss can affect our perspective and view on things. Sometimes what seemed important before becomes less so or it spurs us on to do things we have put off. Don’t come back too soon, pace yourself as often the feelings do not manifest for a while until it sinks in. Will be praying for you and your Dad. Again my deepest sympathies xxxxx

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Jaclyn Young June 11, 2012 - 11:50 AM

So very sorry for your loss Katrina. Sending thoughts & prayers to you & your family <3

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Jacky June 11, 2012 - 11:50 AM

So saddened to hear of your loss Katrina.  Take time to grieve and be with your family. xx

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Lisa Inglis June 11, 2012 - 11:51 AM

I hope your Mum rests in peace, and I hope you and your family can support each other through all that is to come. (((HUGS)))

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Lisa Inglis June 11, 2012 - 11:51 AM

I hope your Mum rests in peace, and I hope you and your family can support each other through all that is to come. (((HUGS)))

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Crwaller June 11, 2012 - 11:51 AM

my heart goes out to you and your lovely family !!  Be strong and take care …x x

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Katie Gibbons June 11, 2012 - 11:51 AM

I’m so sorry Katrina. My thoughts are with you and your family at this hard time. xo

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Toushka Abrams June 11, 2012 - 11:55 AM

Oh Kat, I’m so sorry. Thinking of you this week. xxx

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Cassie June 11, 2012 - 11:55 AM

So sorry to hear of your families loss. Take heart in the knowledge that she will always be remembered in your hearts and the memories that you all share of her. Sending my families condolences to your family at this very difficult time.

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Sarah June 11, 2012 - 11:55 AM

Katrina I am so so sorry to hear of your loss of your beloved Mum. Thinking of you xxxxx

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Lisa Robertson June 11, 2012 - 11:55 AM

How very sad for you and your Family. Through all of this, don’t forget to take care of you! May your Mum RIP, and you all find the strength to get through this very sad time. 

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Sally Thibault June 11, 2012 - 11:56 AM

It doesn’t matter what age we are, losing our Mum is very difficult and it will begin a new stage in your life journey.  She must have been so proud of you and all you have achieved. Take care and take time ?

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Macemish June 11, 2012 - 11:57 AM

naww thats terrible and so suddenxx lovely photo of the 3 of you ..

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L Watts June 11, 2012 - 11:57 AM

so sorry to hear of your mums passing. Although your mum is no longer with u in person, her spirit will always be with u and your family.

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Angeh2005 June 11, 2012 - 11:57 AM

So very sad. I lost my mum 19 years ago and I still miss her so much. Thinking of you and your family today. Xxx

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Caitlyn Nicholas June 11, 2012 - 11:57 AM

Huge hugs to you and your family.  Be kind to yourself.

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Rah! June 11, 2012 - 11:58 AM

Katrina, I’m so sorry that you’ve had to say goodbye to your mum. 
Take care of yourself and give yourself all the time you need x

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janithom June 11, 2012 - 11:58 AM

My thoughts are with you, Katrina, thank you for sharing, losing someone very close to you and so quickly is very hard hugs to you xoxox

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Meg_hiskens June 11, 2012 - 11:58 AM

sorry to hear this sad news …. know that she will be with you forever in your heart and you will meet again one day. Thinking of yourself and your family during this time of loss. i know right now you probably can’t imagine a day where you wont be devestated – the pain doesn’t go away but with time you learn how to move forward and cope with the loss. x

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Kristy June 11, 2012 - 11:58 AM

So Sorry to hear of your loss, My thoughts are with you and your family at this very hard time, take care xx

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Shirelle Tyler June 11, 2012 - 12:02 PM

The loss of your Mum will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to endure and I know first hand that time does not make it any easier. Take time to honour her memory and yourself… we will all be thinking of you and praying for peace in your heart. Sending you comforting hugs in the dreary days ahead. xx

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Grant-deanna Platts June 11, 2012 - 12:02 PM

Thinking of you and your family xox

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Liz June 11, 2012 - 12:03 PM

Oh gosh, I am so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you and your family xo

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Jacobellash June 11, 2012 - 12:03 PM

(((hugs))) very sad to read about your loss

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Bronte June 11, 2012 - 12:04 PM

so sorry to read this Katrina, i will be thinking of you on this hard week. Take care of yourself and hug your family a lot over this time…

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Vanessa Malone June 11, 2012 - 12:07 PM

So very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you..

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Ginny @ Organizing Homelife June 11, 2012 - 12:07 PM

So sorry for your loss!  Love and prayers to you and your family! xoxoxo

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Ingrid June 11, 2012 - 12:07 PM

My thoughts are with you at this time Katrina.  It must feel awful however I pray that you find all the strength you need to carry you through this sad time.  Take care xx

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Smec June 11, 2012 - 12:08 PM

So sorry to hear hun, all my love to you and yours xxx

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Kristina June 11, 2012 - 12:11 PM

I don’t know you Katrina but I am truly sad for you. I’m so sorry for this loss you and your family are going through. I had tears for you and your family. Write down everything you need to say to her. May you find strength from within and for your dad. Hugs.

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Aprilg June 11, 2012 - 12:14 PM

May the Lord bless you and yours during this difficult time… May He provide you with peace and comfort. 

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Anelda June 11, 2012 - 12:15 PM

I am so sorry to hear about all of this and the sad sad loss of your mum. Wow it was very quick and the shock must be immense. I pray for comfort during this sad time xx 

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Marita June 11, 2012 - 12:17 PM

:: tears :: Katrina, I’m so sad for you 🙁 Lots of love heading your way.

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Catherine June 11, 2012 - 12:18 PM

Deepest sympathy to you – I can’t even imagine how hard it must be right now.  Sending prayers your way.

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Melissa June 11, 2012 - 12:19 PM

Im so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mum to brain tumours/cancer. It is very hard. Take time to let yourself grieve and take care of yourself xx

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Mon June 11, 2012 - 12:23 PM

Thank you for sharing your story here. I’m sorry for the loss to your family and the quickness with which it happened. I hope you find some comfort in going through her things and tidying the house as hard as that will be. It may bring you some understanding into why she reacted in hoarding things away when she suffered the loss too. Be kind to yourself this week and over the coming weeks.

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Leanne Peryman June 11, 2012 - 12:23 PM

Your mum is never just your mum she is your best friend. To be so sudden is suck a shock. This is one of the hardest things you will ever have to gho thru, but make sure you give yourself time to grieve. Do no apologise for being upset or breaking down in front of people. Let it go and take things at your speed not what others think and say you should be doing. There was no need to tell her all those things you wanted to as I am sure she knew. Sending lots of love your way XXXXXXX

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Paula June 11, 2012 - 12:23 PM

Very sorry to hear about your mum 🙁
I lost mine as well when I was 23 so I know what you must be going through & hell is a great way to describe it. Hopefully she is in a better place with my mum & we will all meet again.

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Louise_py June 11, 2012 - 12:25 PM

So sorry to hear about your mum, I lost my mum 10 years ago and I know how hard the first days, weeks, months can be…please take time to look after yourself as well as everyone around you…thinking of you and your family.

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Trace7766 June 11, 2012 - 12:30 PM

im sorry to hear that you hav lost your mum be gentle with yourself dont try to do to much as this is a time for you and your family take care your in our  prayers thankyou for what you do xxx 

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Megan June 11, 2012 - 12:30 PM

Wishing you and your family the strength you need during this difficult time, the patience to cope with all things now trivial and the acceptance of love, help and good wishes coming your way xx

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Lisa June 11, 2012 - 12:32 PM

Very sorry for your loss
Thinking of you and your family
May your Mum rest in peace

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Kate @ Our Little Sins June 11, 2012 - 12:32 PM

Oh Kat, I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. What a sad shock for you all. xo 

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Lottisworld June 11, 2012 - 12:35 PM

So sorry to hear about the loss of your mother …. thinking of you and wishing you peace and comfort at this difficult time.  

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Nicmc6 June 11, 2012 - 12:40 PM

Katrina my prayers and thoughts are with you right now for your devastating loss.
My own mother had a brain tumor which was detected upon her having a seizure. This was 2.5 years ago and we take each day as it comes.
My heart goes out to you x

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Sara Stankovic June 11, 2012 - 12:40 PM

Sending you and your family esp your Dad lots of love and light during this difficult time there is never enough time but always think of how lucky you were to have experienced unconditional love from your Mum it will be a hard time but you can do it. 🙂

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Jo-Anne K June 11, 2012 - 12:42 PM

Very sorry to hear of the sudden loss of your dear mum, thinking of you and your family…

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Kelly June 11, 2012 - 12:42 PM

Loosing a parent, so unexpectantly, is such a shock and upheaves our entire being, home and life.  I lost my MIL extremely unexpectantly and it felt like my soul had been ripped out of me and I couldn’t breathe.  You can never prepare to loose a loved one, but when it comes out of left field, it is often the shock that compounds the loss.  As you tell us, a journey starts with one step at a time and over the next weeks, months and years, you just have to keep taking those steps, taking time for yourself and immersing yourself in your loved ones.  Your Mum would of been so very proud of all you have achieved both in your career and your personal life and I am sure you will continue to make her proud as you help your family put the pieces of life back together.  Sending you heartfelt love and prayers during this difficult time.

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Joolzmac June 11, 2012 - 12:42 PM

I am so sorry you’ve l

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Kylie June 11, 2012 - 12:44 PM

My heart goes out to you, your Dad and the rest of your family Katrina. Take as much time as you need – we will all still be here.
Much love

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Joolzmac June 11, 2012 - 12:44 PM

I am so sorry you’ve lost your Mum. Thinking of you at this sad time, tale care.

xxx Joolz

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Joolzmac June 11, 2012 - 12:44 PM

I am so sorry you’ve lost your Mum. Thinking of you at this sad time, take care.

xxx Joolz

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Janepeck326 June 11, 2012 - 12:45 PM

You give so much in sharing your ideas and experience with others. “Thank you” and “I am sorry for your loss” seem like such small things to give in return Jane

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Alexis June 11, 2012 - 12:54 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. You mother was for sure proud of you and your accomplishments. Thank you for inspirational writing and for taking to time to let your ‘fans’ know where you are at. I have you and your family in my prayers and thoughts and hope this painful time passes soon and you are left with memories that make you happy.

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Marelle June 11, 2012 - 12:55 PM

Oh hugs and prayers to you – I lost my mum when I was 23 to a brain tumour in 1979
My heart goes out to you xxxx

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Rebecca June 11, 2012 - 1:01 PM

So very, very sorry to hear of your loss. I think losing your Mother can be almost as hard as losing a child. Cherish your memories, and let her live on through your work and your children.  God bless. x

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Bec G June 11, 2012 - 1:02 PM

So sorry for your loss 🙁 I lost my dad in March this year after a long and painful journey… I don’t think it is easy whichever way they go… 🙁 

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Lisa Warren June 11, 2012 - 1:02 PM

Katrina, I am so sorry for your loss! My heart absolutely breaks for you and your family. Cherish the happy memories that you created together throughout your life, and the love you had for each other as mother and daughter. Wishing I could give you a hug in person. Love, Lis.

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Jen June 11, 2012 - 1:04 PM

Big BIG hugs Katrina. 🙁 Try not to even think about “doing your blog” – it will still be here. Take it all slow and allow others to do the unimportant things for you,(cooking, cleaning, shopping etc) while you concentrate on yourself and your extended family.
Sending prayers and love, Jen

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Carol O'Brien June 11, 2012 - 1:17 PM

So very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you..

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Louise June 11, 2012 - 1:29 PM

My deepest sympathy goes to you Katrina… Just as you have helped us all to get organised, I hope you can take some comfort and strength in knowing that we r thinking of you. Please take care of yourself first… We will all still be here! Xxx

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Momstheword June 11, 2012 - 1:45 PM

Katrina, I am so very sorry about your mom.  Losing someone is always difficult and takes your breath away, whether you’re “prepared” or not.  But when it is unexpected it is always such a shock. 

You drive down the road and look at life going on all around you and realize that you’ve had a huge life loss and isn’t it odd that these people on the road are talking and laughing and have no idea how devastated you are inside.  It is so weird to see life going on, and yet somehow comforting too.

Just take things slow and allow yourself some time to grieve.  Let people bring you meals if they offer.  That was one nice thing that people did for us after my dad died.  Let people help you.

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Debbie June 11, 2012 - 1:50 PM

So sorry for your loss.

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nanette June 11, 2012 - 1:51 PM

Life never turns out the way we expect it too…..wish.you all the strength you need. Love your blog. You are an amazing inspiration……take care

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Sullyd June 11, 2012 - 1:59 PM

Sending prayers up for all your family at this time.

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Michelle K June 11, 2012 - 1:59 PM

Sending hugs and prayers to you and your family xx

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Ktillston June 11, 2012 - 2:08 PM

So sorry for your loss. Today is my grandma’s birthday, and she passed away 16 years ago. She was integral to my upbringing as she lived with us from my birth and was always there while my parents were working hard. I still feel her loss today, and find it hard to talk about her without feeling the despair that she isn’t here anymore.
Please do not worry about your followers, as you need to take this time to be with your family and your feelings. We will all be here when you are ready to return!
Thoughts are with you and your family.

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Leonie June 11, 2012 - 2:10 PM

 Katrina, thinking of you and your family during this time of loss xxxx

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Margaret June 11, 2012 - 2:16 PM

I’m so very sorry for the loss of your Mum.  After reading your earlier post about your Mum being admitted to hospital I’ve been wondering what happened, because it mirrored what I was going through – my Mum was taken to hospital the same day, with a suspected stroke.  Luckily she hasn’t been affected much, but instead we’ve had a diagnosis of advancing dementia, which means I am slowing losing her.  My mum came home from hospital yesterday – I’m so sorry that that wasn’t the case for you.  You are so strong and inspire so many of us every day – but right now, it’s you and your family who need you – I’m sure we can cope without your wonderful blog for a while. 

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Greavesmel June 11, 2012 - 2:17 PM

so so sorry for your loss x

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Wendy Oman June 11, 2012 - 2:21 PM

So so sorry for your loss – losing either of your parents is just so hard to bear. At least she didn’t suffer and hopefully just slipped peacefully away. Love, hugs and prayers are with you – she will now take care of you from heaven xx

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Nicole Avery June 11, 2012 - 2:22 PM

So sorry to read about your loss Kat. Wishing you strength and peace for you and your family.

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Sarah_chad1997 June 11, 2012 - 2:47 PM

May the love and support from all your followers help you get through such a difficult time.
You mentioned there was so much you wanted to say to her but didnt get a chance, can i suggest writing  a letter to your mum, place it with her at the funeral, tell her everything you wanted to – release all that you have to say. Whilst she may never physically read it, gain strength in knowing she has your words with her. xxx

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Blissful Events June 11, 2012 - 2:47 PM

Ohh Kat, I read your blog & have tears rolling down my face. So sorry to hear of the loss of your mum. She is now your angel looking down on you & your family. Thinking of you during this hard time. lots of love Kylie

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Debbie @ Aspiring Mum June 11, 2012 - 2:54 PM

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you and your family at this time. Take care.xx

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tarabell June 11, 2012 - 2:59 PM

Thinking of you and your family at this very sad time Kat xoxo

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Janet June 11, 2012 - 3:14 PM

Our love and prayers are with you at this sad time.

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Kristy Chromicky June 11, 2012 - 3:22 PM

Rest in peace! Our thoughts are with you and your family.

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Archie June 11, 2012 - 3:27 PM

sending you big hugsxxx

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Bec June 11, 2012 - 3:29 PM

I’m so sorry for your loss. I would be lost without my mum and feel so heavy in my heart for you and your family. I too know of what you’re going through with my uncle passing away in very similar circumstances. He had been suffering for a few days with terrible headaches, so bad he decided to visit his GP. The GP quickly dismissed him, sent him home to take panadol and bed rest. A day later he suffered a stroke that lead him to be admitted into the ICU where he suffered one more stroke which took him away. It was discovered he had a brain tumour that was causing him to feel so sick. He remained on life-support for two days while my Aunt and Cousin made the horrible decision to end his life as he’d become in Doctors terms a vegetable. It would be no life for him nor for them not to mention the financial burden it would leave them in. My Uncle was put to rest on my mothers birthday. It’s a day we will NEVER forget. As time passes the pain eases and you will be able to move forward. Take as long as you need and don’t feel pressured to return to us before you’re ready. xoxo

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Norell June 11, 2012 - 3:46 PM

My prayers and thoughts are with you. I lost my Mom to a sudden stroke and my precious Aunt to a brain tumor. Cry when you need to. I was always taught to never express grief in front of others. When my Mom and my Aunt died, I cried like a baby whenever I needed to. It helped me and also let my family and friends know it was okay to express their grief too. 

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Danielle June 11, 2012 - 4:01 PM

My thoughts are with you at this sad time.. 🙁

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kris June 11, 2012 - 4:21 PM

I’m so sad for you and your family, my thoughts and best wishes to you all, I hope the beautiful memories you have of your Mum help you through the hard days.

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Hayley @ HappyHouseWifey June 11, 2012 - 4:21 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss. Praying for comfort for you and your family during this time. Hayley

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Amanda B June 11, 2012 - 5:59 PM

sorry to hear of this sad loss, may you find comfort in the wonderful memories you have made over your lifetime. Praying for your family. much love, amanda

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Lisa June 11, 2012 - 6:30 PM

Kat – thank you for sharing your beautiful Mum with us all.  You have an amazing Organised Housewife extended family praying for your comfort and wisdom at these crossroads in your life and to help you make the perfect plans for your Mum’s funeral.   We all know that you will make it so special for her in your Organised Housewifey way.  I too have a Mum who has not wanted any help with her hoarding, so this was really close to home.  Sending lots of hugs your way.  {{{{ }}}}

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HelenR June 11, 2012 - 6:35 PM

Thinking of you and your family at this very sad time. Sending heartfelt prayers for you all as you deal with the very sudden loss of your mother. As another who has lost her mother, I really feel for you. Be kind to yourselves.

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Michelle June 11, 2012 - 6:50 PM

Sending loads of love to you and your family on your sudden loss.
I think these ladies and gents have said it all xx

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Gayle June 11, 2012 - 7:33 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss.  Thoughts are with you at this difficult time. xo

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Kyliemorrisnz June 11, 2012 - 8:15 PM

Sorry for your loss x

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Anon June 11, 2012 - 8:44 PM

Thoughts and prayers for you and your loved ones x

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Kathryn June 11, 2012 - 10:20 PM

Sorry to hear of losing your Mum, so quickly & unexpectantly too. All the best for the upcoming week… take care of each other and yourself!! You have given so much to us out here, now take some time and spend with your family xx

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Trish June 11, 2012 - 10:42 PM

Thinking of you Katrina , love , light and strength to you in the coming week. Sorry for the devastating loss of your Mum.

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karennarelle June 11, 2012 - 11:06 PM

Feeling very sad for you. I wish i could say something to help. Take whatever time you need. We’ll be here whenever you are ready to come back. 

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whiningattheworld June 11, 2012 - 11:15 PM

Very sorry for the loss of your mother. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.

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Suzy June 11, 2012 - 11:27 PM

Oh Katrina, I’m so so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum in similar circumstances 4.5 years ago so I can understand the shock and disbelief you are experiencing. There will be tough times ahead as the reality sinks in, but there will also be the memory of good times to carry you on. Possibly you are finding that your mental picture of your mum is her lying in hospital. Let me assure you that this will pass, and be replaced by images of her in happy times. For a while after my mum’s death, all I could think of was watching her as she got weaker and weaker, but now, when I think of her, the main picture I have is her laughing, usually at something cute my kids have done or said. And I think of how proud she would be of her beautiful grandchildren. Oh, gosh, the tears are rolling now, I can’t say any more, except that I’ll be thinking of you. Hold those precious children tight.

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The_Snowball_Effect June 12, 2012 - 12:11 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts. xx

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chrissy June 12, 2012 - 4:32 AM

I am so very sorry to hear your news.
This touched me as my mother in law passed away 6 years ago in a very similar way – and aged 54 it was not her time at all. This was also a brain tumour that seemed to come from nowhere. We had an awful night in intensive care the day it was found, and she pulled through that. However we only got another few monthswith her which was so hard. My husband and I got married so she could be there, but its never long enough – she always wanted to be a grandma and it broke my heart that I couldn’t fulfil that dream for her before she went – but my 4 year old daughter now talks to grandma in the sky nearly every day!.
Your mum will know you loved her so much, and will be there every step of your journey from now on – she’ll have front seat tickets! That thought helps me…

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chrissy June 12, 2012 - 4:32 AM

I am so very sorry to hear your news.
This touched me as my mother in law passed away 6 years ago in a very similar way – and aged 54 it was not her time at all. This was also a brain tumour that seemed to come from nowhere. We had an awful night in intensive care the day it was found, and she pulled through that. However we only got another few monthswith her which was so hard. My husband and I got married so she could be there, but its never long enough – she always wanted to be a grandma and it broke my heart that I couldn’t fulfil that dream for her before she went – but my 4 year old daughter now talks to grandma in the sky nearly every day!.
Your mum will know you loved her so much, and will be there every step of your journey from now on – she’ll have front seat tickets! That thought helps me…

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Holly N. June 12, 2012 - 6:38 AM

I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to you and your family and my prayers are with you as well.  It is so hard to lose your mom especially when it is sudden like that no matter what your age is.  God bless!

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Jodi838 June 12, 2012 - 7:39 AM

So sorry for your loss Katrina. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take time off if you need it ok, no explanation required. You have shared so much wisdom on this blog so don’t feel pressured during this hard time. We’ll be here when you’re ready. Sending you lots of love xox

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Liz June 12, 2012 - 8:51 AM

Katrina, you will smile again soon- I promise xxx

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Vparrish June 12, 2012 - 10:39 AM

So sorry for your loss Katrina. My thought and prayers are with you and your family at the sad time xxx

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Mpateman1 June 12, 2012 - 11:25 AM

so sorry for your loss and cann relate to the hoarding issue too. My mum is also a hoarder and it effects me alot. Reading your story has made me realise it is not everything – mum is still mum

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Cassandra Henry June 12, 2012 - 11:28 AM

Oh Katrina, my heart breaks for what you’re going through.  If only there was something we could all do to ease the pain you and your family must be feeling x  

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Justinnicole June 12, 2012 - 11:35 AM

Our deepest sympathy to you and your family Katrina. May you find the strength you need in your children, xx

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Melanie June 12, 2012 - 12:08 PM

Dear Katrina,
I am so very sorry to hear this news, in Feb this year I was in a very similar situation with my mother. Thankfully my Mum has got through her illness for now and is under going treatment that prolongs her life a little now. But, I did have a taste of what it would be like to lose her suddenly so understand completely the shock you must be feeling. All I can offer is a cyber hug. 🙁 Really I wish I could change things for you.
Love to you and your family. xxxxxx

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Lisa Robertson June 12, 2012 - 12:52 PM

Katrina, my deepest sympathy and thoughts are with you. I completely understand how you will be feeling as I lost my mum almost 9 years ago suddenly. She was only 49 and had a ruptured brain aneurysm, so for us the shock and suddeness was all in a day. While the next few days, weeks, months will be tough, I know you are a strong person and have a gorgeous family who will get you through this tough time. Keep strong xoxo

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Mary June 12, 2012 - 3:00 PM

Deepest sympathy to you and your family Katrina.  May the sun shine again for you very quickly with the beautiful memories you have of such a fine mum.  Mary

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The Scrapbooking Housewife June 12, 2012 - 3:49 PM

I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss, please take as long as you need.

This brought back memories of my Dad who died 16 years ago this month at the age of 62.  He also started with slurred speech then a seizure, I had been travelling around the South Pacific for almost a year when I got the call.  He was diagnosed with brain cancer and was given 12 months.  It upsets me that I lost out on that year before his diagnosis, but he made it to 13 months and we cherished those days we had with him, as hard as they were to watch him go down hill and not be able to communicate or understand much near the end.  :*(

xoxo

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Cass June 12, 2012 - 5:15 PM

My thoughts are with you and your family. *hugs*

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rae June 12, 2012 - 8:16 PM

you have a wonderful website and are obviously a very caring, understanding and patient person… and daughter. Thoughts and prayers with you

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Rad June 12, 2012 - 10:58 PM

I’m so sorry for ur loss my thoughts r with u & ur family

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Kruppy June 13, 2012 - 9:31 AM

We are so sorry to hear this news Kat. You are in our thoughts. From the Nuffnang team

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Kazzie June 13, 2012 - 12:16 PM

Heartfelt condolences.  Love and strength to you and your family.

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Jan June 13, 2012 - 1:25 PM

My deepest sympathy to you and your family. My family’s thoughts are with you at this painful and difficult time. xx

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Jan June 13, 2012 - 1:25 PM

My deepest sympathy to you and your family. My family’s thoughts are with you at this painful and difficult time. xx

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LEES June 13, 2012 - 4:18 PM

So sad. My thoughts are with you. Make sure you put YOU first while you adjust to these changes. We’ll all still be here. X

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Sandi June 13, 2012 - 6:08 PM

My thoughts and with you and  your family. x

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Nicole Martin June 13, 2012 - 9:29 PM

My sincere sympathies, my love and thoughts are with you 

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Nicole Martin June 13, 2012 - 9:33 PM

My sincere sympathies with love and best wishes x

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MelB75 June 13, 2012 - 10:14 PM

Give yourself and your family the time to deal with your tragic loss. Blessings xo

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kat June 14, 2012 - 9:12 AM

I just want to offer my sincere condolences. Really, reallly feeling for you and all of your family at this time. May someone like you, who has actually helped more people than you’d probably realise, be helped through this difficult time.
*hug*

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carlisworld June 14, 2012 - 2:45 PM

I’m so very sorry for your loss, my family’s prayers are with you all….

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Claire @ Claire K Creations June 15, 2012 - 11:21 AM

Sending you big hugs and lots of love Katrina xx

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Rochelle June 15, 2012 - 2:16 PM

Bless Sweetie – sending you & yours love and kind thoughts xo

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Kath June 15, 2012 - 2:18 PM

Sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts are with you & your family x

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Hayley June 15, 2012 - 2:53 PM

So so sorry for your loss.. Thinking of you and your family x

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Dorothy @ Singular Insanity June 15, 2012 - 5:20 PM

Oh, darling, I am so sorry.  Losing your mum would be so hard and even harder when it is so unexpected.  Hugs and love coming your way…

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Bluezone June 15, 2012 - 8:42 PM

Thoughts are with you and your family.  Such a hard time…

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Priscilla June 15, 2012 - 10:04 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Manda-Kate June 16, 2012 - 12:37 PM

Sending heartfelt sympathy to you at this time of sadness. 
Hope the lovely memories of your Mum help even though they will make you cry…. I hope that they at times will make you smile too.  x

P.S.  Take all the time you need…..we will all be here patiently waiting until you are ready to come back.

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sarahbraaksma June 16, 2012 - 2:16 PM

deepest sympathy to you and yours Kat. you have been in my thoughts and prayers. xx

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Nicole Baillie June 17, 2012 - 10:17 AM

Sorry to hear about your Mum’s sudden death. Thinking of you and your family at this time. Take care of your self and strength from those who care for you at this time.

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Jonicariedel June 17, 2012 - 11:26 AM

Sending you loving thought at this incredibely difficult time. xx

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Chris June 17, 2012 - 1:04 PM

So very sorry to hear that you have lost your mum, Katrina.  That she passed away so suddenly will be a shock that takes a long time to process.  In the meantime, be good to yourself, and know that she will always be with you. It took me a long time when I lost my mum, and even now there are times that it’s still tough. Be kind to yourself and take good care.  xo, Chris

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KK June 17, 2012 - 8:39 PM

Take your time. Sending you hugs and support.

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Busymumto5 June 17, 2012 - 8:40 PM

I’m so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in the support of all your readers and “fans”  sending you big hugs. 

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HStevens June 17, 2012 - 9:43 PM

Sorry to hear about your mum passing . I just love your site n cant wait til.your up again

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steph June 17, 2012 - 9:59 PM

Sincères condoléances … puisse le temps apaisé votre douleur …

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Casey June 18, 2012 - 2:10 PM

I am so sorry to hear that you and your family have lost someone so special and loved. We will all be here when you are ready xoxoxoxo

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Simone June 18, 2012 - 5:55 PM

My prayers and thoughts are with your family. May your mum rest in peace.

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Pjeppesen19 June 19, 2012 - 3:38 AM

It’s never easy losing you mom no matter what age you are. I miss my mom every day and she has been gone 7 years this month. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Jen June 19, 2012 - 12:42 PM

Oh Kat, I just came to catch up on your blog and saw this. I am so so so sorry for your loss. If there is anything that I can do please let me know. Jen Lovely Living xx

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Jspunner June 19, 2012 - 9:28 PM

So very sorry to hear your news.Take Care.Jo

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Dagmar June 20, 2012 - 4:14 AM

I’m sorry for your loss. May your mum rest in peace!

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Katrina June 20, 2012 - 10:51 AM

Thankyou to each of you for your lovely words and thoughts.  It has been a hard time, unexpected and hard to believe it’s all happened.  Thankyou for your patience with me returning back to daily blogging xx

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Rose Green June 20, 2012 - 2:00 PM

Oh Katrina, I’m so very sorry to hear about your Mum. It’s a very sad time in our lives when we loose our Mums, no matter the age or circumstances. You take as much time as you need.  Bless you and your Mum.

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Andrea June 20, 2012 - 2:03 PM

Ohhh Kat, I am so sorry to hear of your loss….
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers… xx

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Miss C June 20, 2012 - 2:08 PM

It is so hard to accept a loss when it is so sudden like that. I pray that you find comfort in those around you and that you find strength in those that you love. THinking of you and your family at this time Cx

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Tcook June 20, 2012 - 2:17 PM

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

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Krystal June 20, 2012 - 2:22 PM

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please accept my condolences xx

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macca June 20, 2012 - 2:39 PM

So sorry for the loss of your mum. Remember to take all of the time you need for you and your family.

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Susan Palmer June 20, 2012 - 2:54 PM

I feel so sorry for you and your family particularly at your sudden shock.  It is so important to cry and not hold your sorrow within.  You will find in the times to come that the slightest thing will set you off and that is OK – just let the tears flow.
Cherish your lovely memories.
Take as much time off as you need – we will be ready when you are!

Susan

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Caroline. June 20, 2012 - 2:59 PM

So Sorry to hear about your mum, take whatever time you need, it is a different process for everyone.
Sending you gentle hugs, ,and I am sure your mum is watching over you all and will guide you through the coming months and years

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Laurie June 20, 2012 - 3:30 PM

Hugs and love coming to you and yours at this sad time. Please take all the time you need and we will wait for you with open arms and love in our hearts

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Chris June 20, 2012 - 4:20 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with you .

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Jknock June 20, 2012 - 4:33 PM

Oh Katrina !  This is such sad news. Godspeed to your lovely mum and heartfelt sympathies to you and your family at this most difficult of times.
Even though you will understandably not be “full speed ahead” as normal for a while,  I am sure that all your past organisational activities will come into play and enable you to go on “autopillot” every now and then as you need to
Take Care
Julia
x

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Donna June 20, 2012 - 4:46 PM

Katrina, I am sure all our thoughts are with you.  It is never easy to say farewell to a parent.  Your mother will always be with you in your heart and in your thoughts.  You will grieve for your loss but also be happy for your memories.  Thanks for sharing with us.  Donna.

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Hazelwade2004 June 20, 2012 - 4:53 PM

Katrina, my deepest condolences to you all at this very sad & difficult time.  Your mum will always remain in your heart and will be looking over you for ever.  I know it’s a shock, as you say things happened too fast but I hope you can take comfort, in time, from the fact that things were quick and that your mum didn’t have to suffer, as many do, with illnesses like this.  Your mum raised a wonderful person who has inspired many – and that is your greatest testament to her memory xxx

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Sonya13 June 20, 2012 - 7:37 PM

I am so sorry I lost my dad a month ago so know the pain you are feeling, my thoughts go out to you as you get through this xxx

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Julie C June 20, 2012 - 7:53 PM

I’m very sorry to hear your sad news. Please accept my sympathies.

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Lisa June 20, 2012 - 8:10 PM

I feel your pain I lost my dad on 1 June exactly the same way via a brain Tumor that caused stroke like symptoms very sudden I maintained a vigil at the hospital but he is now at peace as is your mum. It’s hard you are in my thoughts xxxx

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antonette June 20, 2012 - 9:35 PM

so sorry to hear your news. just remember she will be near you always.xxxx

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Angie chamberland June 20, 2012 - 10:51 PM

Thinking of you during this difficult time.  Lost my our Dad at Easter and still miss him like crazy.  It wont get easier, you just learn to deal with your feelings better. Love to you and your family. xoxo

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JJ June 21, 2012 - 8:44 AM

So sorry for the loss of your Mum. My thoughts are with you and your family. xx

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melandhannah June 21, 2012 - 10:41 AM

big cyber hug
x

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The Mother Experiment June 21, 2012 - 5:00 PM

So sorry for your loss.

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Katherine Prefol June 22, 2012 - 9:06 AM

Firstly my deepest condolences to you and your family. I lost my Mum a short time ago – Anzac Day to be exact after a short 11 day illness. I too am struggling to come to terms with this – you see my Mum was only 61. Katrina being a little way ahead of you on this I would say do what feels right at the time, cherish your kids for it is through them and their eyes that the light will come back into your world and lastly you are much loved and have all the grace that goes along with that xxx

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Katrina June 22, 2012 - 6:33 PM

Katherine I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, my Mum was 63. It is so hard to comprehend it all as it all happened so fast. Our stories sound very similar Thank you for your kind words x

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My deepest condolences on hearing this news.May God you the strength to live happy further.

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Lisa Malaniak June 23, 2012 - 9:50 AM

I just came across your blog today through a pinterest pin of your calendars. I’m so sorry for the sudden loss of your mother. Seems we’re never prepared for it but especially so in this manner. Be good to yourself right now – be patient. 

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Desire Empire June 23, 2012 - 9:54 AM

Sorry to hear of your loss.  Losing a mum no matter what age you are, must be one of the hardest things to endure.
Carolyn

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Paula June 26, 2012 - 7:56 AM

My very deepest condolences to you and your family Katrina.  What a difficult time for you all. My heart really goes out to you in comfort and for peace

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Kylie June 27, 2012 - 8:38 PM

So sorry to hear about your mum. It is such a horrible time…life just goes into a spin when something like this happens so suddenly. We lost my beautiful Mum-in-law just over 2 years ago. She had battled cancer for around 8 years, but the last 4 days of her life were pretty horrific. She was only 68. All I can offer you is be gentle on yourself. Grief is such a personal thing, and you never know when and where you may just be overwhelmed by it….you just have to go with it. I really don’t think you ever get over losing someone close – especially your mum!
I don’t think time heals, it just helps you to move forward. <3

May you be surrounded by your loving family and friends, and find peace in fond memories!

Thinking of you,
Kylie

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Katrina June 27, 2012 - 9:50 PM

Thank you Kylie for your kind words and you are exactly right, time won’t heal.

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Noeline Mathers July 3, 2012 - 9:04 PM

Our deepest sympathies Lost my mum in a car accident They are never far away a thought a song and lovely memories She will always be watching over you and your family The pain remains but you learn to live withit Take Care

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Katrina Irwin March 21, 2013 - 6:11 AM

I have been loving your blogs and inspirations and especially my weekly task-And have just read this blog. Emphathy to you. But what you are doing is amazing. I have shared around friends and they are loving too. Thanks

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Loraly Macapagal February 15, 2014 - 10:13 AM

I think you are very strong. I’ve been struggling with the loss of my mom (in 2011). O just want to go back to normal. Can you please share some secrets to living even though mom is gone?

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