10 ideas on how to stress less

The past few weeks have been a real struggle coping with the grief of losing mum.  I have lost all my grandparents, but this is a completely different feeling.  There are days where I think tomorrow I will try get back into my routine, but I’m finding it hard to move forward.  I want to be honest and give you an understanding on how I am feeling.  I am not sleeping, cooking, baking, cleaning or blogging as much as I want to.  I’m sure it’s the lack of sleep has left me with an aching head and no energy.  I’m also feeling torn as I really had hoped mum would read my blog, I know she was proud as I often told her stories of my achievements and the lovely messages I receive from readers and I knew that one day she would read it… but now she won’t and this hurts.

I saw this list on pinterest recently, 10 stress less ideas.  Not that I am stressing, but I love the idea of some of them to help me move through my struggles with losing mum.

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22 comments

Donna Webeck July 3, 2012 - 7:07 AM

So sorry to hear of your loss. Take time with your grief, and I hope it will be easier with time.  

This is a beautiful list, I am going to take note xx

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Tammy_crane6 July 3, 2012 - 7:39 AM

i lost my dad 2,5yrs ago, at age 20– it hurts that he only spent a short 5mnths with my first daughter & will never get to cuddle my 2nd– watch them grow hear them say ‘pop’ for the first time — & i know people say it gets easier with time, but i think it gets harder- i mean, sure you learn to find a way to deal with it (you have to!) but everyday you miss them more & more 🙁   — condolences x 

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A-M July 3, 2012 - 7:46 AM

Oh I am so sorry that you lost your Mum. I think the fact that you have realised that you just have to be kind to yourself and take life at a pace that you can manage, is a step in the right direction. Great list. It was lovely to meet you at Blogopolis and I will look you out in New York! A-M xx

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Helene July 3, 2012 - 8:36 AM

Deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your Mum. Such a massive loss that we all dread, my thought are with you and I hope that you start getting some sleep soon, maybe even some lovely dreams of your dear Mum will bring you some comfort. Xo

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Melissa July 3, 2012 - 9:32 AM

My heart goes out to you and your family Katrina – losing a parent is a really hard thing for anyone to go through, I was in High School when I lost my father and even at that time it took me 3 months to get back to school to face people etc. So I think you are already doing a wonderful job!! I believe (this is what gets me through) that your Mum would be watching over you all now and she will be reading every blog that you are writing and she will continue to be very proud of you – think of her as your guardian angel watching over you and your family xx

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Gabby_299 July 3, 2012 - 10:20 AM

My thoughts are with you Kat. You are truly inspirational and will move forward in your own time. What a great lsit above.

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mrsmmouse July 3, 2012 - 1:20 PM

Hi Katrina, So sorry about the loss of your mum.  Losing someone close is never easy and I dont think it is something you ever get over.  A friend of mine posted this link on FB last year and I thought it was really interesting and has been of some help to me.  I hope you can use it and that is can help you to move on and get back into your regular routine.  Regards Marianne  🙂   http://wendykeller.com/featured/schedule-your-suffering/

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Julie July 3, 2012 - 8:11 PM

I am so sad, that you have lost your Mum. I am sure that she is now watching over you as someone above has said, and I am sure that she is vey proud of you. I think that you are doing an amazing job already. Take all the time you need, your readers love you and will understand.

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MarissaBeautifullyOrganised July 3, 2012 - 8:11 PM

Oh lovely Kat, I’ve just caught up and read about you losing your mum, I’m so sorry lovely xx

My thoughts are with you and your family xx

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Janblanch July 3, 2012 - 8:26 PM

Katrina I am so sorry for the pain you are going through at the moment. losing a loved one is never easy and losing your mother is very hard at whatever age you are. take one day at a time and let yourself grieve in your own way and your own time. things will right themselves when the time is right and until then be kind to yourself. my thoughts and prayers are with you

jan

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Susan July 3, 2012 - 8:51 PM

Hi kat, one thing I did when I lost my mum was I went looking for a beautiful thank you card and wrote it to her … Telling mum all the things I was grateful to her for and what I loved about her…. All the things I maybe hadn’t gotten around to telling her… But also a lot of things that I had told her but that I wanted to say again… Like I love you!! I found it very helpful doing this – it ended having an extra few pages to it!! Best wishes to you and don’t be too critical of yourself….. It will take time to fully grieve and “deal with your loss”… Xoxo

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Sharon July 3, 2012 - 8:52 PM

Deapest Sympathies. Grief takes time, and I’m sorry it will be a long journey. The lengths gives tribute to the special relationship that you had. The best road through it is the road of thankfulness. Of the beautiful mother you have and treasured her best legacy is her family. May you find comfort in your treasured memories and peace in the midst of turmoil. God bless.

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Dianna Bay July 3, 2012 - 9:04 PM

Dear Katrina, I can not begin to comprehend what you are going through. I am so sorry for your loss. I know that your mum did not get to read your blog but I am sure that she is at your side, with her hand on your shoulder guiding you through this time in your life. I am sure that she is very proud of you and your accomplishments.
You are a very insperational women. I have found comfort in recent days, by reading your posts and looking at your ideas. One of which I have taken on board this week to help me get through a very challanging time. I am a person who likes to be organised, and in control of as much of what is going on around me as possible. I am currently going through a house extension at the moment. I have 2 young boys and we are staying in the house whilst the extension is being built.
I did not realise how much of a control freak I was until I started this process.
Last week it all got too much and I broke down about the whole situation, I couldn’t handle not being in control of my surroundings or what was going on.
I turned to your website and FB page for ideas on how to make things better for me and my family. I spent last weekend sorting my bathroom cupboards and also set up a 2 week meal planner based on your ideas.
From this I have been able to gain control again and feel less anxious about what is happening. Your page has helped me plan how things will be once the extension is finished and it has set my mind at ease.
Thank you for your wisdom and your words. I hope that knowing you have helped someone as much as you have, helps you get through this time.
Wishing you all the best.
D

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Nbeltane July 3, 2012 - 9:24 PM

First of all condolences on your loss. 

I lost my dad in may of 2011 he had a sudden heart attack, it was several months for me to come to terms that he was gone. Then in February of this year, we lost Mum to Cancer. To have lost two parents in less than a year is more than hard to cope with, for the first few months after losing mum i still expected her to call. I am learning to take each day as something that should be treasured. i lost interest in everything the home, crafting blogging, I miss them both immensely. Now its time for me to concentrate on my little family and do what is right for us. For many years we have stayed in the same state as my parents but now they are gone we have made the decision to move interstate and start a new chapter and journey just for us. To do some of the things that that list suggests. It just takes time. And as many people have told me in the months since losing mum and dad, grief doesn’t just go away, it stays with you, with each day though you get a little stronger. 

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lj6 July 3, 2012 - 10:06 PM

“The darkest moments of our lives are not to be buried and forgotten, rather they are a memory to be called upon for inspiration to remind us of the unrelenting human spirit and our capacity to overcome the intolerable”  Vince Lombardi
You will get through this because you are a strong, inspirational and lovely lady. 

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AshMmisforMe July 3, 2012 - 10:06 PM

I’m so sorry to hear about your mum Kat. That’s such a beautiful list that you found. I’m sure your mum can see your blog, and how amazing you are. So so lovely to meet you on Saturday, xo

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Kathryn July 3, 2012 - 10:14 PM

What a gorgeous list. We all need reminding some times to do these things, what ever is going on in our lives. Take your time and don’t be hard on yourself. Thinking of you at this sad time, even though I’ve never met you. Take care xx

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Betty July 4, 2012 - 12:21 AM

Katrina, so very sorry you lost your mum, I think you share your beautiful self through your blog so indirectly I think your mum did read it. In any case, she had the Organised Housewife as her daughter, what could be more special than that, I’m sure she’s very, very proud. x

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Vanja July 9, 2012 - 1:55 AM

Lovely to read, as I lost my dad 4 weeks ago… It feels like life is never going to be the same again 🙁

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Shell February 12, 2014 - 11:40 AM

I lost my Dad 10 years ago suddenly to a heart attack. It was the anniversary on the weekend and honestly I cried more than I have on any other anniversary. Losing a parent rocks you to your very core. It takes time to heal and time to nurture yourself. Always worth making the time for yourself and speaking with a professional for some counselling as well.

Really love your blog, but don’t forget to take time out for you as well.

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Rose February 12, 2014 - 12:07 PM

I lost my Dad two weeks ago – thanks for this post he was diagnosed with cancer 6 months ago, it has been a horrendous 6 months and I am struggling – I am someone who always copes, life can keep piling it on and I take it in my stride, now even the little things seem so hard and insurmontable, at the moment I feel like all the joy has been sucked out and I’m wading through a thick fog – the insomnia is the killer I think but I suspect even with sleep it would be hard, it is almost unbelievable that life wants to keep charging along when I feel like it should’ve hit pause while I take in the enormity of my loss.

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Jaime November 3, 2014 - 1:52 PM

Sending you a healing hug.

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