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Organising my thoughts

This is a guest post by Alyce, from the blog Blossom Heart.

Greetings! My name is Alyce, and I over-think.  Am I alone in this? Probably not, but maybe I am… I am a girl after all; us girls do like to over-think things. But maybe people will think I’m crazy, maybe it’ll sound like I’m talking to myself…

Sound familiar?

Being a stay-at-home mum, I can sometimes go days without much adult contact, other than my husband. Meaning that the only adult conversation I have is with myself. No, you won’t find me talking to myself aloud, although I do mutter at my children in the trolley as I wrestle it around the supermarket, but if you peek into my head you will often find me:

  • Rehearsing conversations in my head;
  • Writing mental to-do lists over and over;
  • Worrying about potentially forgetting to get things done (like write this guest post until a couple of days before I needed to send it in);
  • Analysing my behaviour – how is it being perceived by my husband, my children, my friends?
  • Guilt-tripping over what I should be doing or should have done or should do but know I won’t…

Yep, it’s not a pretty sight sometimes. And one of the worst times for over thinking is when I lie down in bed at night and close my eyes. My husband falls asleep within minutes, whereas my brain frequently decides that in order to wind down it needs to re-process the day’s thoughts.  But I have found that if I write these thoughts down, I can get my brain organised.

One of the best things I did for getting my brain practically organised was get a diary with a week per opening, with 3 rows for each day. It’s actually supposed to be used for different family members, but I’ve divided mine into Morning, Afternoon and Night.

Throughout the day, I’ll jot down the things I need to do as they come to mind, so that I can tell my brain to switch off and go to sleep instead of worrying about it and re-reminding myself.

Getting my brain emotionally organised isn’t quite as simple. I used to journal (the grown-up name for writing in a diary!), but that dropped away once I was married, and is now non-existent with kids. Now, blogging has been my outlet. I don’t get overly personal, but the friends I have made and the community I have become a part of are invaluable. I may not get to have coffee dates with them, but they live in my smartphone and I take them everywhere I go! Mummy bloggers share similar frustrations, similar struggles, similar joys. We get each other. 

For a similar outlet with fellow mummies, try finding a new mums’ group – local councils and churches often have playgroups on a weekly basis. I still meet roughly once a month with my Child and Youth Health mums’ group at a playground and I have a weekly mums’ group at my church that I can count on being a highlight in a low week!

Being a stay-at-home mum can be isolating. Get out there, give it a go. You can do it!  

About Guest

Alyce is a mummy to Jon-son (2) and Darling (almost 1), married to a scientist, has Craft ADD, is moving to Japan in May for 3 years and doesn’t really have it all together as this post may imply. She blogs at Blossom Heart about life as a stay-at-home-mum and all that it entails – parenting, marriage, crafting, and anything else that strikes her fancy! 

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  • I hear you about talking to yourself – in your head or muttering to your kids. Careful it doesn’t spill out when you’re out by yourself, like it did witg me! Lol! But I think I’m going to start getting a diary instead of just relying on the organiser in my phone. Too many things happening atm.ReplyCancel

  • gail

    Katrina–I do the same thing with replaying secnarios in my head, conversing with my various selves (no, I do not have multiple personality disorder). I was concerned at one point, but as a quite mature–ahem–grandma, I now think it’s just what caring people do. Thanks for your blog.ReplyCancel

    • At my mums group we actually had a discussion the other day about how it’s kinda funny that we all rehearse and/or replay conversations in our heads :)ReplyCancel

  • gail

    Sorry–The post is Guest Alyce, not Katrina.ReplyCancel

  • Caz

    OMG thank you I am not aloneReplyCancel

    • Thank YOU I’m not alone, lol! I hope you can find some peace :)ReplyCancel

  • I regularly talk to myself too and I’m sure some comes out aloud by the look on some peoples faces…lolReplyCancel

  • neeny_81

    Yes I can relate to you Alyce! Definitely! I make sure I read a book before sleeping, I let myself get caught in the story and my thoughts go away until I am so heavy eyed I might have accidentally dribbled… lol ReplyCancel

    • Haha!! Yes, when my husband is away, I sleep terriibly, so I stay up late so I’m nice and tired. In fact, even when he’s at home and on the rare occasion goes to bed before I do, I’ll stay up later than usual so I can just go to sleep when I’m in bed.ReplyCancel

  • Hehe, I’m worried that my husband might hear me when I’m muttering to myself in the shower sometimes!! But no indication so far of this ;)ReplyCancel

  • I’m so glad that I’m not alone. Thank you for this post. I also use a diary to jot down the things I need to do for the week to prevent me from suddenly waking at 2am realising that I need to to A, B, or C the next day and then can’t get back to sleep because I don’t want to forget. So, yes, the diary certainly helps. I also like to read before I turn off the lights as this helps me wind down and fall asleep quicker and I’ve also recently started a gratitude journal that I keep by my bedside where I write 3 things I’m grateful for that day no matter how bad a day I’ve had. :-)ReplyCancel

  • Amanda

    Such a great post. I keep a book and “brain dump” in there multiple times a day. Thinks i need to do for home, work, the kids, thinks i think i want to research etc anything that comes to mind goes in my book and i love it! Sooo easy!ReplyCancel

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