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A busy mum’s beauty routine

This post is sponsored by Avon I’m going to put it out there first and foremost, I don’t wear makeup everday.  But for me a beauty routine is not just about makeup it’s about looking after your skin, your future self. To prevent the wrinkles and keep your skin toned as you age. Looking after […]

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  • Mamma

    This is a bit of a silly post. It’s not so much a beauty regime as a hygiene regime.
    Shower, get dressed, put on make up of going out….isn’t that all of us?!?ReplyCancel

    • Nellie

      Not me. I shower at night so I can sleep in until the very last minute.ReplyCancel

  • Renee Simpson

    Love this routine. Just started this day and I feel so much fresher and not look so much like a daggy mummy.
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  • Shelley

    I too love this. I came across this website looking for help as I am at the extreme end of unorganised! Yesterday morning I got up and showered rather than just putting on whatever I could find and getting out the door. It made a huge difference rather than coming home from dropping the kids off and showering sometime throughout the day! I actually went straight from there and did groceries etc. You wouldn’t believe how much extra time I had from this one little thing.

    I’ve never really worn makeup mainly due to not knowing where to start. So what might be a normal everyday thing for one person certainly isn’t for another. The simpleness of this post makes it not overwhelming to start looking after yourself rather than everybody else. Thank you!!ReplyCancel

    • Shelley, you have truly brought a tear to my eye…. thank you. Why I write this blog is exactly what you have explained in how it has helped you. Whilst my ways may be ordinary sometimes people just need a glimpse of how somebody else goes about general day to day tasks and is an idea of how they can adapt it to their lifestyle. I can only imagine how much extra time you have by not having to come back home to shower and then more than likely get distracted with other things, but rather drop the kids and continue on for the day…. good on you. You have truly made my week, thank you xxReplyCancel

  • Amanda

    If looking after your skin and preventing wrinkles is your goal, daily sunscreen use (rather than just when you think you need it) is the key, and has scientific evidence to prove it! A big study called the Nambour skin cancer prevention trial showed very clearly that people who used sunscreen daily had far less ageing of their skin after 4.5 years – imagine how that translates if you start the sunscreen young and continue it throughout your life (not to mention the reduced rates of melanoma and other skin cancers)! I think it is important people know this fact and spend their time and money on sunscreen rather than unproven creams and formulas…ReplyCancel

    • absolutely Amanda, sunscreen is always important, I make sure I purchase my creams with sunscreen in it, as I burn even putting washing on the line, my skin is that fair.ReplyCancel

  • Sam

    I’ve been rocking the avon magic face cream stuff and eye wand (face cream make pores and flaws look less aggressive and the eye wand brightens the eyes) then chuck on some avon bb cream, flick of mascara and a run over the eyebrows with the mascara wand (very lightly…helps them stay in place too) and I am done. Takes less than 5 min. And I agree…showering before taking the kids to school def kick starts the day on a good note. On days when I don’t….I find myself wandering in circles and keep passing the mirror thinking how awfully tired and haggard I look.ReplyCancel

  • Melanie

    This isn’t a beauty routine as much as a cleanliness routine, not helpfulReplyCancel

  • Alison Fusca

    Love this!! I too, shower at night (as my 3.5yo showers with me – so much faster than a bath and she feels like a ‘big girl’!) it saves me so much time in ams. Just run the straightener over my hair and quick splash of makeup I’m done!
    Love love love your blog – always inspiring ;)
    Keep it coming xxReplyCancel

Is fear of failure dulling your shine?

This is a guest post by Kelly Exeter from A Life Less Frantic ‘What are you scared of?’ The question hung in the air between us for a second. ‘What do you mean?’ ‘Well you’ve told me your big idea – and then spent the next 10 minutes talking yourself out of going after it. […]

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  • This is a great post and I love Kelly! Met her Problogger last year and I believe Woog instructed me to stroke her. I really identify with this. I’m a bit of an over achiever myself and I HATE failing. It’s really important to reevaluate what failure means. Thanks for this! Feeling very inspired now!ReplyCancel

    • Aw Smags thank you! And lol yes Woogs loves telling people to stroke me!

      And PS it took me a LONG time to be able to deal with any kind of failure. I wish someone told me to ‘look at failure like a scientist’ 15 years ago. Would have saved me some torment!ReplyCancel

  • Kim | Melbourne Mum

    Nailed it, Kel. I liked that very first quote. I feel like this a lot (wrote about it here – http://melbournemum.com/2014/02/27/i-dont-want-to-live-an-ordinary-life/) My dreams are huge—almost too huge, they overwhelm me a LOT. I know I’m capable of so much and yet I fear mediocrity so badly it literally keeps me awake at night. KimReplyCancel

  • […] these posts by John & Kelly today reminded me of thoughts I’ve had in the back of my head for a while about worst case […]ReplyCancel

  • Kylah Morrison

    Great post! I continually have to remind myself that other people are not thinking/talking about me as much as I think they are. Such an important lesson in life and takes a huge amount of pressure off when you master this :) ReplyCancel

    • It’s hard to believe isn’t it?! We assume people pay us so much more attention than they are!ReplyCancel

  • Kathy www.yinyangmother.com

    This is a great post Kelly – I especially like the scientific approach to treating failure as data towards success – scientists have such patience, don’t they – I need more of it and less fear.ReplyCancel

  • Pelican Pie

    I just love that looking at failure scientifically, food for thought. Thank you, Kelly.

    But – that quote at the top I’m pretty sure is from Nelson Mandela’s 1994 Inauguration Speech, and goes on: “It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.” There’s more. Maybe it was Marianne Williamson’s quote, originally, and he used it…? It’s still brilliant.ReplyCancel

    • Hey there Pelican Pie – that quote is always wrongly attributed to Mandela. He used it in that Inauguration speech – but the words are Williamson’s :) ReplyCancel

      • Pelican Pie

        Well, see, I had a failure right there. I failed to do my research about the quote. But now you’ve set me straight on that one, I can add that bit of data to my mental file….so thank you! It’s a think-worthy post.ReplyCancel

{SAHM Sanity Guide} 69 Non-Scam Jobs for a Stay At Home Mum

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  • Cindy Phillips

    I am a single mum of 3 with no family here on the gold coast. At the moment I sell just the kids second hand clothes & toys on ebay. I would love to start up an ebay business but I have no idea where to buy things in bulk. Can anyone help?ReplyCancel

    • MO5

      Cindy, you can buy a lot of new clothing off ebay for fairly cheap. A lot of popular items are peppa pig etc.. just take a look at ‘Boys will be Boys’ fb page, and see the clothes they’re selling, guarenteed you can get them $5-10 cheaper just on ebay alone.

      Also, there is a great site that sells bulk called ‘Alibaba’, but you do have to buy a fair few units.

      The key would not be so much the price but the following. I’ve thought about it a lot but right now it isn’t for me (I have 5 under 7) but perhaps in the future.

      Hope this info helps :) ReplyCancel

      • Sarah

        I have used Alibaba often and they are great! I run my own Etsy store designing and selling kids party printables (invitations, banners, cupcake toppers etc) and I also sell at markets. I buy all my packaging supplies from that Alibaba and I can highly recommend them. Some vendors allow you to buy just one unit, others require you to buy in bulk so make sure you search. It does take about a month for your goods to arrive but besides that they are great. And you can buy anything and everything you could ever imagine.ReplyCancel

        • Thuy Minh

          MO5,Buy a bulk stuff supplies ( a big number order) do we need a ABN number or any problem with ATO lately ?ReplyCancel

          • Sarah Manuel

            no you don’t need an ABN and you shouldn’t have any trouble with the tax office. I have bought bulk lots of packaging supplies, party supplies, even kids clothes and accessories and never had a problem.

  • Lo Tink

    I work a casual job of around 25 hours/week and have 4 children (ages 5-13). I run a business from home as well, as a Beauty Consultant with Mary Kay. I love the flexibility of being able to run this business around my family, along with contributing as much as I possibly can to the household income. My casual job is great, but you can’t advance in it like your own business :) ReplyCancel

  • Cin

    SAHM and work as a face and body painter and Henna Artist. I will never return to the 9-5. My off site work fits in nicely with Daddy home time and I can work when I want and as much as I want. At $100/hour or more, I can happily work for 4 -12 hours a week and help financially with the costs of raising a large family.
    Yes there is paperwork and bookwork etc but on my schedule. LOVE it and wish I had started soon.
    **Disclaimer** Helps to be artistic :P ReplyCancel

    • EJ

      Hi Cin just curious as to what the majority of gigs you get booked for? Are they childrens parties/markets or adult functions?ReplyCancel

  • Carly Joyce

    My nephew had a pirate-themed birthday party and (being the super auntie that I am) I played the role of a pirate and ran the games. A few of the parents told me I should take it up as a job as you can earn about $100 an hour and typically kids parties are no more than 3 hours. I was utterly exhausted by the end of it but I am considering it! I am a teacher in the “real world” so I drew on a lot of the skills from my job and it really was heaps of fun :) ReplyCancel

    • EJ

      Hi Carly how would you get that started? I am interested to know! Or is there a company already doing this and hiring because my partner would be awesome at this as he loves nothing more than being a “big Kid” and is great with children.ReplyCancel

  • Tina

    I am a mum to 6 kids, ages 2-15yrs and I am part of the best company in the world( i think) i do Tupperware, its great cost nothing to start, fits around the kids family and all of their activities it actually fits all of your above criteria, i meet people , make money get lots of free rewards and amongst other things have fun. I would never go back to a 9-5 job thats for sure.ReplyCancel

    • Tamara

      I have just started in Tupperware and am loving it! working around my husband and children’s commitments and still able to contribute to the never ending pile of bills! Tupperware really know how to make you fee appreciated and the ongoing training and support is amazing. I am so addicted to feeling like I am on a high!! Love love love it!!ReplyCancel

  • Jac

    Hi There

    We have a great business for stay at home mums, it’s a Business Networking night for women. Anyone with a passion for events, women and putting people together can do really well! http://businessinheels.net/blogs/entry/Looking-for-Branch-DirectorsReplyCancel

  • This is great advice! The only thing I would disagree with is the animal breeder job. Breeder’s are usually in it for the love of their chosen breed and when done properly, there is not much money to be made. It’s more of a committed hobby. :) ReplyCancel

  • Rachael Hallett

    I am getting myself ready to become a stay at home mum. I’d like to try for a baby next year and knew I would need something to keep a little income coming in (and perhaps keep me sane!). I decided to start a Professional Organising business as I am very passionate about helping people take control, through organisation. I am very happy to see this listed here as it really is very rewarding. Click Your Heels Professional Organisation was born from my passion and I think that is the way to do it, find something you are utterly passionate about!ReplyCancel

  • Molly

    Please take number 66: Animal Breeder OFF the list. We are foster carers for the RSPCA and there are far too many unwanted animals in this world already. If people aren’t willing to adopt an animal then they don’t deserve to have an animal in their life.ReplyCancel

    • MAM

      I agreeReplyCancel

    • Looking at it your way I agree Molly, I was seeing the vision of my mother and grandmother they were both bird breeders, they both loved it so much. They bred Lovebirds and cockateils and mixing them together to breed particular colours. I completely understand where you are coming from with cats & dogs.ReplyCancel

      • Liz

        Hi Kat, I still think that this was a good suggestion! My sister breeds pure bred puppies, selling them for $600 each and never leaves the house. While I always used to love the idea of adopting a pet, we have decided not to take the chance on a dog with an unknown history with 3 small children in the house – its just too risky. ReplyCancel

        • Also you could breed heritage breeds of say, chickens, which is keeping alive breeds that have become marginal, and is something you generally can’t get from the RSPCA! (Though I don’t know how much money you’d make from this.)ReplyCancel

        • Anna Lopez

          Sorry Liz, but that’s not a good reason to forego adopting a cast-off dog in need of a new home. Or to continue to encourage the pet-breeding business which is very detrimental for reasons already stated by other posts. You can use common sense and choose a dog that is still fairly young, and a family-friendly breed, and on the small side. All of my dogs over the years have been second chance pets, and not one of them has ever hurt any of my children.ReplyCancel

  • MAM

    I don’t want to be a negative Nancy because I love your blog, but animal breeding should not be encouraged at all. Other than that some great suggestionsReplyCancel

  • Leah Gibbs

    This is a fabulous post. Sharing ;)

    Thank you for adding Lifestyle Careers to the list.

    I also run another site called http://www.workathomemums.com.au which may be of interest to your readers.

    Have a great day, Cheers WAHMReplyCancel

  • Katrina Watson

    Loving your site, all your ideas are so helpful.
    I found it next to impossible to get a job that catered my needs as well as the business. I wanted a job where I can work during school hours, plus have school holidays off to look after the kids and basically work when I want to work. So I joined Le Reve, and haven’t looked back. Next year, I will be going to the Gold Coast for our annual convention. So looking forward to that.ReplyCancel

  • Bianca Orvañanos

    Cooking teacherReplyCancel

  • cara

    Just wondering why direct selling (demonstrator) is listed as borderline. I am not a Tupperware seller – but am part of the Direct selling world – and wonder why it would be listed as BORDERLINE – suggesting its dodgy! Its a fantastic opportunity for anyone wanting flexibilty and financial freedom.ReplyCancel

    • Dana

      It’s only borderline because it can take a long time to get money coming in, it’s borderline by the criteria at the top :) ReplyCancel

      • Rebecca Murphy

        its isn’t truly a work from home thing either because you still have to go out and do parties/demos… I found it didn’t work with a young family at all.ReplyCancel

        • Bubbles74

          I tried it too. Not happy giving demonstrations during family time on weekends. It doesn’t fit within school hours well (few people want week day demonstrations).ReplyCancel

  • tracey

    Independent PartyLite Consultant work the hours i wont get gre
    at pay free candles overseas trips ive been selling now for 3 years and with 9 children its the perfect job for me if anyone is interested give me a call 0402504422ReplyCancel

  • Sonia Sweeny

    It seems “demonstrator” or direct sales is actually pretty popular for SAHM’s. I have recently started with Herbalife after 7 years out of the workforce (previously from a corporate background.) I am finding it far more rewarding than I could have imagined! They are awesome products and I get to help others look and feel great! I would never have thought I would do this but with 3 yr old twins and a 7 yr old it has been the answer for me. ps I wouldn’t think it is borderline :-) ….ReplyCancel

  • Rebekah

    I have a Cake Company. I teach others how to start their own cake business and I love it! I start and finish my work day when I wish.ReplyCancel

  • Kelly

    Hi Kat I’m new to your site and finding it full of heaps of info so far. I just wondered if you do find a product you love and want to sell e.g. kids stickers and wall art, where do you start? Did you go straight to the brand/company or do you search via wholesalers online, etc?? Thanks KelReplyCancel

  • Shaye

    Thanks so much for a wonderful post, there are so many options on your list that would not have entered my mind! I have started Dimples & Whispers, an online baby gift business, it has been a massive learning curve and enjoyable couple of years and I am now slowly starting to make some good progress. Thanks for motivating me to continue! http://www.dimplesandwhispers.com.auReplyCancel

  • Erika

    Lots of great suggestions, but may I say that writing Mills and Boons may seem ‘easier than you think’, but out of 4000+ manuscripts they receive per year, only 20 are published so your odds aren’t particularly good.ReplyCancel

    • Yes, I picked that one up too. These days you can self-publish on Amazon, but to make an income from it you need to build and audience and do a lot more than just write the books.ReplyCancel

  • Amanda Micallef

    I’m a Norwex demonstrator and there is nothing borderline about it. Fits the criteria of cheap to start. Where else can you start a business (your own business too) with all the equipment, training and support you could possibly want for $59.95 (and sometimes free)? It’s also incredibly rewarding when you have people come and say ‘thank you’ with great feeling. You do change people’s lives by removing the chemicals in them, they often have less asthma, allergies and skin problems and we have had kids with level 10 allergies not need their medication for years now. It’s a fabulous business to be a part of! There is also zero pressure so you can plod along at your own pace but there are plenty of rewards if you want to make a real go of it.
    I love my job! With 2 small kids I am very limited as to what I can do elsewhere. I work at a local cafe 2 days and babysit 1 day yet I can make more than all three days combined in one 3 hour demonstration. Not all days are that brilliant but at 35% commission ($35 for every $100 sold) I don’t have to have an amazing sales figure to help make ends meet.
    Love my Norwex!ReplyCancel

  • Gypsy Cottage

    I am a stay at home grandmother and I operate a sewing and alterations business from by home. I can sew/craft while the baby is sleeping. I have an online store with Artfire.com http://www.artfire.com/ext/shop/studio/TheGypsyCottage not getting rich but doing something I love. There are other handmade sales sites as well, like Etsy.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Murphy

    I am an ironing lady and it works really well for me… I started a small business page on fb and got more leads that way… some weeks I make more than what I was making as a party plan consultant… I love how flexible it is and I can still do it while pregnant.. ;) ReplyCancel

    • Rebecca Murphy

      it also helps to pay for my wool and craft supplies…. I love dying my own wool and buying fabric to make my kids clothes…and nappies.ReplyCancel

    • Leah

      Hi Rebecca
      I’m interested in becoming an Ironing Lady. How did you research your prices? And how did you get started from nothing?
      If you don’t mind discussing with me, I can send you my email address. CheersReplyCancel

      • Rebecca Murphy

        hi.. sure . Well I just sort of tried to work out what other ppl in my area were charging to see that I was offering something reasonable. My rates are $25 for a flat oval basket which includes pick up and delivery to my suburb and those surrounding. For larger baskets I will charge more but not add in a second delivery fee. I usually make it my aim to deliver ironing back within 24-48 hours depending on how big the basket is. For one larger rectangular basket I charge $40. I started off just advertising on fb garage sale sites in my local area… I have found a few clients this way… as well as word of mouth… initially I placed an ad in my local paper and got one client from there who I am still getting semi regular work from. I am currently taking a break from the business as I just had a baby… I told my clients I was taking 2 months break from the birth of bub… I had a friend who works but wanted some extra money who was willing to take up my clients while I am on my break… and in Feb i will pick up where I left off…. I love it.. sometimes I do 6 baskets in one week other times its just 1… I find it works well with my family .. I don’t charge per hour because as a mum… thats just too damn hard to work out.. I purchased a steam reservoir iron and iron in a half the time of a normal one… a great investment. Good luck … hope that helps.. ;) ReplyCancel

  • Jo Livings

    When my children were smaller I set up my own company as a Virtual Assistant, Seeking Serenity (http://www.seekingserenity.co.uk) was born in 2008 when my youngest daughter was just 6, I put all of the skills I had together for my initial services and invested earnings into learning new skills, such as website design.
    As well as my services (and I employ mums to work for me!) I also train people who want to become Virtual Assistants. It’s sad there are so many scams out there that target mums who just want to stay home with their little ones, but have some financial independance.ReplyCancel

  • Annmarie

    I love your blog. I just starting peeking through it. I am a SAHM and WAHM.
    I am a freelance graphic designer https://www.facebook.com/annmariesirotnak which I love doing and have been designing for over 15 years. I agree there are a lot of scam jobs out there. So blessed to have my skills. Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

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  • Whitney

    I have a personalized gift business. I love personalizing items for people. I recently lost my job because it went out of business. I don’t have children (unless you would call my kitten as my child) but I’m a full time college student and it’s hard to work around classes. https://www.facebook.com/WhitneysDesignsReplyCancel

    • EJ

      Congratulations on picking yourself up and making your own way after job loss Whitney. There are lots of people that would simply fall back on the government as their only option. :) ReplyCancel

  • turtledove

    Im curious how a lot of these qualify as Stay at home? Real Estate Photographer? Doula? Signwriter? Sports coach? How can any of those actually be done from your home. Its like as if theres some kind of stigma to admitting you work outside your house.ReplyCancel

  • melanie

    would love to work from home doing something for children :) id love to know how people began to sell things like stickers?ReplyCancel

  • Rachael

    Please take Change Manager off the list. As a professional Change Manager with extensive experience, about to become a first time Mum, I can safely say that working from home is absolutely not an option. The role of a change anager requires on site interactions, managing stakeholders and working through many of the issue that occur when managing transition in a business. There are seldom any parttime gigs for us Change Managers even. You have to deeply know the organisation you work with to be able to provide advice and management on managing change and working from home is not an option. Its also a roel that requires tertiary qualifications, so its not something anyone can just pick up.ReplyCancel

    • mel

      I agree with this, it isn’t a role that can be done from home.

      cheers

      MelReplyCancel

  • Kate

    I was introduced to a working from home opportunity through a close friend of mine and only wish I knew about it sooner. I have looked at opportunities on and off for years and have found all of them to be scams.
    I am now an Independent Distributor for some inspirational products. This opportunity has changed my life.
    The team morale and ongoing support is something I have never experienced in the corporate world and it is all done online.
    I choose when I want to work, how much effort I want to put in and how many hours. Of course this then determines my level of success and how much I get our of my business.
    If you have the passion to change your life and circumstances, and the desire to succeed on your terms please jump onto my website and have a look at the products and look into the company – it is truely inspirational. http://www.katemclelland.myitworks.comReplyCancel

  • Debsch @ ClothBooksForBaby.com

    Where do I get a job as a proof reader? I’m always spotting errors in other people’s text… for example… Number 38 above… thing should be think… “Ironing Lady (makes more than you might thing)”ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Hill

    I have a lovely little business were I sell new, handmade and quality pre-loved baby and kids clothing, shoes and accessories via Facebook. The retail price of children’s clothing is astronomical, and I like helping Aussie families save money where they can!

    Having an online business is definitely a challenge with a 3 year old in tow, and our house is constantly over-run with clothing (hence my finding your blog and de-cluttering challenge very relevant, hehe) .. but I enjoy being home with my daughter and being able to generate some extra income for the family.

    If any of your followers would like to see our products, you can visit the page here: https://www.facebook.com/PracticallyPerfectClothesReplyCancel

  • telly2008

    I’m a WAHM, I run workshops conducting facials. Learning about skin care and cosmetics. I work my job around my life, reieve a great monthly pay check, earn rewards/incentives, meet amazing people. No experience necessaryReplyCancel

  • Megan Ahern

    I am 25 years old and I am a full time 24/7 carer for an 18 year old girl with mild learning difficulties. She lives with us in our home and we are provided with fortnightly weekend respite, so that hubby and I can have a bit of R&R. This arrangement is what is called home-share so the idea is that we live how we normally do and she fits in and is included in our day to day life, she has her appointments and activities which we schedule in too. I am also a SAHM to a 4 year old Beagle and a 6 year old Dalmatian :) My Mum inspired me to take this role on as she was a home-share carer from when I was about 9 years old (my brother was 7) for 13 years and it worked really well for our family and Mum was at home whenever we needed her. If you are in WA there are a few companies you can get in touch with if you are interested or want to learn more about home-share and supporting someone with a disability; One 2 One, MyPlace Foundation, Senses Australia and Family Support WA are just a few you can get in touch with.ReplyCancel

{SAHM Sanity Guide} Healthy Habits For Happy Stay At Home Mum

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  • Lavina Frenando

    These look yummy! I wonder if my kids would eat them? (They don’t normally eat banana!) Personally, I love a banana at breakfast time. Great way to start my day with a coffee ;) ReplyCancel

  • Andrea @ Let Me Knit!

    An apple is my 3pm food. I eat one and my toddlers share one. Perfect carry around food! ReplyCancel

  • Susan

    Bananas in particular are very high in sugar and will likely cause another insulin spike. A handful of nuts would be a better solution.ReplyCancel

    • Shannon Walker

      Bananas are low-gi though lol, so are a very good filling snack with almost no fatReplyCancel

{The SAHM Sanity Guide} Depression

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  • Rachelle Wieler

    I was diagnosed with depression at 13, it was WAY worse after my daughter was born. It’s only now, 8 years later, that I can really see the way those dark fingers wormed their way into nearly every aspect of my life.

    For me, the journey back to myself began with family and church. And it was long, and full of twists. Now I keep tabs on it by identifying when I need time to pamper myself. A new book, lunch out, Starbucks, anything really. It’s the acknowledgement that I am worth money and/or time more than the material thing of it.

    I keep my house tidy, when it starts to devolve so does my mental state.

    And I’m honest. I recognize that sometimes I’m just going to have an off day. It’s no one’s fault, and it doesn’t make me less of a person, or less of a Mom. It makes me, me. And I get up the next day and try again.ReplyCancel

    • bob

      I agree with that; be mindful of how you’re feeling, and know what you’re triggers/symptoms are, and know that each new day is another opportunity to try again.ReplyCancel

  • Tracey Cruickshank

    Depression also affects new dads. My husband has had it since my twin girls were born he wouldnt seek help everybody tried our family, his friends but is finally starting to come out of it after 3 years. He was jelous of the girls and the time it took to look after them. He almost lost me when I gave birth twice, he wouldnt have anything to do with the kids after they were about 6 weeks old. Now he is starting to become interested in them. I think it has alot to do with the people he hangs out with at work now more family orientated and he has been talking to other dads about the same things and he now has a better understanding of it all.
    I have been on anti depressants since a week before I found out I was pregnant and I am not going off them through fear I might revert back. I still have my days when I am tired because I have had a rough night or the house looks like a bomb hit it but I am pretty sure most people feel that way at some time.
    I just tell myself I am not a perfect housewife, my children come first and they will be gone before I know it, time with them is more important then a perfect house.ReplyCancel

  • Samara

    great blog!!ReplyCancel

  • Merryl Chantrell

    I have suffered with Clinical Depression most of my adult life. Not much else to say on that except I am not afraid to seek help. Oh and one more thing I NEVER give up Hope :-) ReplyCancel

  • Ziggy

    The best advice I was given….HALT
    never become …too Hungry
    too Angry
    too Lonely
    too Tired
    It is very easy for this to happen when we are busy people giving out all the time.
    Take the time to look after yourself for your own sake…you are JUST as important as those you are caring for …and for the sake of those you love and care for as well.
    I hope this helps someone who needs to hear it, today.ReplyCancel

{The SAHM Sanity Guide} Mummy time-out

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  • Laney | Crash Test Mummy

    I definitely know the effect of not looking after yourself and not taking time for yourself. I’m very good about it now and my hubby is great at taking the kids so I can get out for a haircut or dinner with a friend.ReplyCancel

  • Julia K

    When my kids were younger I used to attend a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group. They generally meet fortnightly and the formal is usually:
    1) Arrive and sign in
    2) Take your children into the “MOPPETS” room where they are CARED FOR by the MOPPETS carers. These people are generally older people, all blue card holders and they have a genuine love for kids. The children enjoy age appropriate activities, toys, craft and a healthy morning tea (provided by the MOPPETS program).

    3) Once your little ones are settled the mums head into the MOPS room for 2 hours of TIME OUT. This usually involves a talk on a topic of interest, sometimes a guest speaker, a delicious morning tea, and then some creative activity / craft.
    4) Collect your little ones and take them home in time for lunch and hopefully an afternoon nap !
    MOPS caters for all mums with children from birth – school age. The program recognises the stresses mums face during the busy baby/toddler/ preschooler years. The programs are usually church run but, having said that, the groups welcome ALL mums regardless of their faith or lack thereof. They are non-judgemental so don’t feel put off if you are not the “churchy” type :)
    To find out if there is a MOPS group near you – just google MOPS Australia.
    Oh – the cost of MOPS is generally about $5 or $6 a session – regardless of how many children you have.
    My youngest is now in school, but I hope this info might be useful for other mums.ReplyCancel

    • Peta Bruce

      Wow this sounds awesome i just contacted them!!!ReplyCancel

    • danelle69

      Oh I so need this
      THANK YOU!!ReplyCancel

  • Saam Thorne

    My me-times include:
    My weekly Zumba class. I look forward to it all week, and I leave on a high! Last week I couldn’t go due to other commitments, I was sad for the rest of the week.
    Monthly book club with my girlfriends. We’ve been going for 7 years now, and even though we talk about our kids :) we still get the chance to unwind and catch up.
    Monthly massage. I have been seeing my masseur for several years now, and it really helps me physically and mentally. It was especially beneficial while I was pregnant.
    I recently took the time to get a facial as a reward for my hard work exercising and reaching a weight goal. Boy, was it good! I’ve decided to schedule them in every 2-3 months, as the knock-on benefits from this hour I took for myself were incredible.
    And, as I’ve mentioned in a previous post, getting up an hour earlier than everyone else & getting out to exercise really sets me up for the day. I feel positive, ready to face the challenges of the day, and full of energy.ReplyCancel

  • Feefifofum

    Oh yes! My hubby is not exactly forthcoming in the contributing-to-childrearing or housework department, and I had a very difficult baby. Recipe for disaster. I realised the only way to get him to take on some responsibility for bubs was to leave the house. Even though I can’t get him to do anything else, the one thing I’ve been strong about it having a morning off each week. I flee the house for a solo brunch and reading quietly. Oh bliss! I love everyone again after :-) And I get very nasty if I miss my morning off.ReplyCancel

  • My ‘me time’ has been quite limited lately, but I am a big believer in it!! I booked a hair appointment weeks ago (it’s not for another two weeks) and even though I haven’t been yet, the anticipation keeps me going! I think about how my husband drives off to work alone, drops into the shops on his way home alone (if I don’t send out a distress call for him to Get Home Immediately haha) and goes on hikes or bike rides alone, and no-one questions it or gives him the guilts. He doesn’t even think twice because he knows he needs it. My biggest time away from my Little Mister was for a family funeral interstate (2 nights) and I felt awful about it! How does that work?? In all seriousness, I do value my ‘me time’ and I KNOW I am a better person/parent for it.ReplyCancel

  • Miss Maudy

    While I’m no longer a SAHM (lasted 15 mo, went back to work in jibbering relief at the idea of adult conversation and the mere thought of going to the toilet on my own); I am off on a work junket for three days to present at a conference interstate. Three days ON MY OWN with only me to organise and only me to worry about getting to places with all the things. My accommodation and airfares are booked (by someone else), all I have to do is rock up at the airport on time. Oh, and present a paper; but hey, small price to pay for two nights and three days on my own!ReplyCancel

  • Allyson

    I took up Pistol shooting. So for that 2 hours a week, I book a babysitter, and all I have to think about is putting holes in the centre of my target. I really enjoy it and am even competing away from my home club. It is a good tension release, and actually kind of like meditating as you focus on your breathing and stance more than anything else!ReplyCancel

Know your limits, be kind to yourself

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  • K@DragonflyMumma

    Great post sometimes, I completely understand! sometimes we just need to take care of ourselves. Take care and look after yourself and all the best with finding an assistant :) ReplyCancel

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      Oops that first sometimes shouldn’t be there :/ReplyCancel

  • Perfect post for me right now! I’ve been struggling with guilt because I just can’t seem to please everyone all at once! So many event invitations, so little time and energy! I feel bad when I choose myself and my family over friends or extended family, but sometimes I need a little time for self care or to put my toddler son first. EVERY event seems to be an “important” one – baby shower, birthday, wedding etc and it’s so hard figuring out what to say yes or no to. I think I need to give myself permission to not be everywhere at once and to have faith in myself that being at the opening of an envelope isn’t necessarily what makes me a good friend/person. I genuinely don’t see a free weekend until some time next year and that does overwhelm me. Financially, this stuff can get stressful too. I don’t have any solid answers but I think being organised is probably the first step. Then I can sort things out and make clearer decisions from there. Thanks so much for this series and hope you feel better soon!ReplyCancel

  • Kate

    Kat I love that you’re leading by example. Whilst I will miss your posts I appreciate you showing us that we really can put ourselves first when we need to. Best wishes for your health.ReplyCancel

  • Bella

    I’ve never had a problem with too much on my plate – I’m more on the too laid-back end of the spectrum. But when things get busier than usual I have three things I fall back on:
    1. Lists. I love me a list. Preferably broken down into smaller lists of steps to finish each task. Then I have the satisfaction of seeing just how much I did get done towards the final goals, and that it’s not so bad after all.
    2. Routine. If my days are a random scattering of tasks it’s so much harder for me to get anything done. So I’m big on do this thing first every day, and then this thing next. Of course, if I want to add something to my day I have to reform the habit, but at least I’m not spinning in circles randomly just doing stuff here and there and not getting anything sensible finished.
    3. My Golden Rule for when the boys were small: Never Put Up With Anything On A Good Day That You Can’t Stand On A Bad Day. I suffered pretty badly from migraines when I was in my 20s and 30s, and I was pregnant with my first son when I came up with this one day in the supermarket. To me, that meant keeping on top of behaviour that would send me over the edge when I was in the grip of a migraine. And even though my boys are teens now I still nip attitudes in the bud. But for my MIL it would mean keeping the sink empty. And a friend of mine goes nuts if toys are left all over the floor.

    Really, it’s all about knowing yourself and how you tick. And like the previous post, not comparing. Each of us ticks just a little different to everyone else.ReplyCancel

    • Kat

      Wow Bella, you sound like you’ve hit on a winner there – what a great philosophy for parenting! I’m sure it makes for a happy famiy, given that I’ve noticed when I’m not feeling good the rest of the family seems out of kilter as well. :D ReplyCancel

  • Julia K

    I was feeling totally overwhelmed a couple of months ago – you know that feeling that the proverbial straw that breaks the camel’s back is about to be plopped down any second…..
    It was actually on the 30th April and I decided to “give myself a month off” for the month of May. Obviously I still had responsibilities to my family, but basically I made an agreement with myself that unless I had already made the commitment to something ie said “yes” to an invitation or promised to help out with a specific activity – then I would politely decline (unless of course I REALLY wanted to go to something). I also cut myself some slack in other areas (my kids were highly delighted as they got to enjoy several tuck-shop lunches – usually these are a treat reserved for once or twice a term). On-line grocery shopping saved me time and stopped me from bumping into people in the shops.

    I had loads of projects / things I wanted to achieve at home, but I was feeling constantly pulled in other directions and driven by other people’s agendas so this was my way of giving priority to my agenda.
    I was having morning tea with 4 of my closest friends on the 30 April and I told them of my decision. I wasn’t being rude – I just needed to cut myself some slack. Funnily enough – no sooner were the words out of my mouth when another friend rang asking me to attend a party plan event – I almost said yes on auto-pilot and felt quite empowered when I said “no”. That very afternoon another mum I car pool with suggested a play date and I said “great idea – but NOT in May”. Just by knocking two events on the head in the one day – I could almost feel the pressure lifting.
    I highly recommend this approach – it really did help ease the pressure and I am sure I will employ this tactic again.
    Another thing that really helps when I feel overwhelmed is to have some meals in the freezer to fall back on. I always try and do a double batch when baking or making meals – it just helps.
    Good on you Kat for taking a bit of time out and leading by example. Hope you’re feeling better soon.
    Julia
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  • Dawn

    Very timely … I’m dealing with dangerously low iron & vitamin D levels, and decided recently to cut myself some slack. Amazingly, the world is still turning … committees manage without me, party plans still reach sales without me and the house is still standing even though I don’t mop floors every day. Time to concentrate on what our bodies are telling us is so, so crucial. Time to show our kids that mummy martyrdom is a thing of the past, and we are at our best when we take care of ourselves.ReplyCancel

  • Miss Maudy

    Pajama Day!!! Ok, this is more for the kids than me when they get completely overwhelmed with everything (although I’ve been known to join in the fun – but I find that when the kids are doing whatever, they’re not fighting/needing intervention from the mother and I get Stuff done – which in turn makes me feel better. Win all round!). PJ day involves doing exactly what you want without leaving the house *or* getting dressed for an entire day. At the end of the day, you have a bath and get into FRESH pjs. A PJ day generally lasts for a few weeks (as long as the intervening weekends aren’t too busy)ReplyCancel

    • Miss Maudy, this is awesome!!! I was only saying to my hubby on the weekend that I would love a day where I do nothing, don’t go out or do stuff that needs to be done, to just be lazy and relax for a full day. Perhaps I should put a challenge to myself to do it this weekend, why not, what’s my excuse, I NEED TO DO IT!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Jo

    This is such a great post and has me nodding my head as I read……….this has been me for a while! With 4 children (3.5 to 11.5), hubby that works shift work (nurse) and working on building my bespoke stationery business everything has been becoming incredibly overwhelming for a while…………it can be hard sometimes to admit it this and to know what to do about it, but if you don’t everything starts to crumble! For me, the point where I (and hubby) sat down and made a conscious decision to take a step back, take care of ourselves and focus on what is really important which is us, our beautiful family came after recently losing my Dad to a short battle with prostate cancer. Our world stood still for almost a month and it has shown us the world still turns if we don’t get all these things done that seemed important but aren’t really. We are slowly doing more as a family, eating better, getting more sleep and just basically being more relaxed with what needs to be done and what can wait. It will take a bit of time to form these better habits and regularly have time out to just take care of me (& hubby) but we are well on our way.ReplyCancel

    • Jo I am so sorry about the loss of your Dad, I understand how hard that this is on you as I have been there last year with my Mum. I love that you have been able to see the changes that you need to make and that you are on a good path to making this happen xxReplyCancel

  • What a great post and demonstration of exactly what you’ve been talking about. Yes, you do need to look after yourself too! And how exciting getting an assistant :)

    I will be keeping my fingers crossed that a bit of TLC and break from pushing yourself too hard gets rid of that headache, a constant headache is awful to live with, and it sounds like a nasty one. best wishes.ReplyCancel

    • Thank you Kirsten, I really hope this is all that is needed, a little go-slow mode :) Yes, I am really excited of the idea with an assistant too!ReplyCancel

  • Amy

    What a wonderful post!! Loved it!! Was getting tears in my eyes as I read it!! I too, was having a meltdown earlier this year. Was working full time (45hrs per week) in a highly stressful job. This had been going on for nearly 2 years, and May this year, I started getting dizzy spells, headaches and terrible stomach aches and everything that’s associated with upset tummies! (TMI). My then 3 yo and 7yo, were basically being raised by my parents (who are AMAZING) My parents would drop them and pick them up to and from school. Any after school activities, homework and 2 or 3 times a week giving them dinner was done by them. By the time I picked them up around 6.30pm after fighting traffic for 45min, I was tense, tired and on the edge.( My partner works erratic hours, so he helped wherever possible.) My kids were happy, they adore their Nanna and Pop and loved spending so much time with them, but after a hour long phone session, sobbing like never before to my sister, I realised it was ME that was so unhappy. I kept using the kids as an excuse, but they were fine, I was miserable, sick, tired and something had to give before things got out of control. I realised NO job is worth your health, no matter how much you think you need the income. We are building, and paying rent, so both of us on full time incomes made it easier. So, in June this year, after much discussion, tears and stress, I resigned from my job. I am now working casually at another job, which is closer to home and no STRESS! Money is tight…..really tight, but we are managing, and what I think makes it so much easier, is that I AM HAPPY!!! A few months on, I am still suffering terribly from GUILT. Guilt that I am not pulling my weight finacially, guilt about being mostly a SAHM, guilt when work asks me to work extra but I say “no” because my daughter wants me to watch her at dancing class that afternoon. Lots of guilt. I have been and always will suffer from that, that’s just me.lol. But reading this post and everyones comments has made me realise that i need to GIVE MYSELF A BREAK. Cut myself some slack. I am not lazy, or a bad mum, if I sit and eat my lunch and watch Dr Phil while no one is home lol. Or close my eyes and have a quick nap and cuddle with the kids after school. We as mums need to be kind to ourselves. We are raising the next generation, and might I say, I think I am doing a fabulous job!!!!! Sorry about the loooong post, this just really struck a cord within me. :) ReplyCancel

    • Wow Amy, I love your story, reading it makes me think though that you should not feel guilty in fact you should be happy, looking back in years to come I am positive you will agree that no wage will out way those wonderful memories of the years past, of you being happy and staying at home to be there for your kids. Be proud that you realised this and you made the change, despite it being hard with the wage, be proud that you are making it work as it’s the best decision you made for YOU and your family. Good on you Amy!ReplyCancel

  • Tracey Oates

    Hoping you are feeling well soon :-)
    I’m very interested to hear about what you are looking for in an assistant. Will you advertise through your website or through an agency?ReplyCancel

    • Hi Tracey, I have asked my close friends if they are interested in helping me and working on it from there. I am very excited about the idea of having a little help.ReplyCancel

  • Roz

    Hi Kat, Love your blog, your daily tasks and all the encouragement that you give! I too suffer from headaches so I understand your concern. How is your water intake?? And I do mean plain water, no cordial etc as that doesn’t hydrate the brain anywhere like plain water. Dehydration can contribute to headaches and when we are busy it is easy to forget our water. Increased water also assists in weight loss (and i know that you are working well on that score!)ReplyCancel

    • I think you have got it there Roz, my water intake I know is terrible, I try very hard, but I get busy and forget. Until I walk into the kitchen and see my water chart I have on the fridge is very low.ReplyCancel

      • Carly Joyce

        Hi Kat, my water intake can be terrible too – particularly in Winter when I don’t feel as thirsty. I have taken to having a glass of water before I have any food (meal or snack) and before I have anything else to drink. This really works for me and stops me eating too much as well! If you find a whole glass too much, just do half and build up :) ReplyCancel

        • Julia K

          Consider getting a water cooler. We are on tank water but bought a refrigerating water cooler unit about 10 years ago and get the 15L bottles of still spring water delivered. I found that instead of making myself a cuppa – I will go and pour a glass. My kids also now drink loads of water and I have stopped buying cordial and juices altogether.ReplyCancel

  • MarkysMummy

    Great post as always! I hope you have a really good break! :) ReplyCancel

    • Thanks MarkysMummy, I’m just going to take it slow, not so much of a break.ReplyCancel

  • Nisha Parbhoo

    love this blog very inspiringReplyCancel

  • Anne At Home

    OK, I have to put on my doctor hat now (I was a GP before I was a SAHM) and say you should get that headache checked out by a doctor. It may be nothing serious, and your diagnosis of stress/tension may be right, but its worth getting checked out just to be sure. Being kind to yourself also includes regular check ups with a GP and proper diagnosis of anything persistent. We can’t look after anyone else if we don’t look after ourselves FIRST. Hope all is well xReplyCancel

    • Thanks Anne, you are right, but and I did have an appointment booked last week, but was too scared to go. My mum passed last year of a brain tumor and a symptom of that is headaches, I just didn’t want to go as it’s too close to home. This week I have been drinking a lot of water, taking a bit of stress away by going a little slower and not working my upper body at the gym. I am feeling better and haven’t had a headache since Saturday :) ReplyCancel

  • Monica C

    Hope you get well soon and will be waiting with support….ReplyCancel

  • My little Army Brats

    yes, we all need to slow down, mine was virdigo a couple of weeks ago and and ear infection on top. I have only started reading your blog again. Making time to read and take it all in. Currently with hubby away i don’t get that time out, but it doesn’t hurt to send the kids out side turn on the music and read your blog like i’m doing now. Have you looked into Mindful exercises, i have been attending an 8 week course and i have found this fantastic, learning too listen to your body. Which i’m sure all of us busy mums forget to do. Hope your feel better soon……..Thank you for share your abnormalities lolReplyCancel

  • kat

    Hi Kat,

    I have been thinking about your situation a lot lately, as I can really relate to it. (I’ve been thinking of giving up work because juggling home and work is getting too much!)

    Then I saw this blog which mentioned the pressure a blogger can put on themselves, and even though I don’t blog (so I can only imagine what that’s like) I thought you might find this interesting…

    http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2013/05/4-books-that-have-helped-me-to-simplify.html

    I hope you’re going well!

    KatReplyCancel

{The Stay At Home Mum Sanity Guide} Create a cute little savings tin

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  • mumma milly

    this is a great idea, not only does it teach you (and your kids) to look after the cents and the dollars will look after themselves, but its a fool-proof saving plan (cheap, easy and rewarding!) – I will definitely be doing this for our house (for the very few times we do have coins!ReplyCancel

    • what I love most about these types of money boxes is once the money goes it you can’t take it out (well until you open it with a can opener)ReplyCancel

      • mumma milly

        your tips are going brilliantly this week. I keep admiring your tips but never-get-around to implementing them, get a little overwhelmed with where to start. I made a meal plan (and mostly stuck to it) and did the money jar. was worried that we never deal with cash so would never have any coins to put in money jar. so I’ve decided each week to get food shopping money out in cash and left over at the end of the week will go into the jar! Its food shopping day tomorrow and just checked the bank account – theres $35 left over which will go straight to the coin jar (thanks to the menu planning). Now i can see how all the tips relate to each other and if i keep adding on to it bit by bit it will all add up (NPI). thanks Kat xReplyCancel

    • what I love most about these types of money boxes is once the money goes it you can’t take it out (well until you open it with a can opener)ReplyCancel

  • Lucydoll

    Thank you for this Idea, I too have a ugly money tin. So I keep it out of sight. I have always thought I would put more in it if it was in sight. Off to get some funkey paper and double sided tape now!ReplyCancel

    • I don’t understand why they don’t make them with nicer patters, lol.ReplyCancel

  • Melanie Holland

    We do the same thing in our house. Our first one wasn’t as large but when we opened it we had approx $300!! It’s amazing how something so small can add up to so much and you dont miss the coins when you put them in but get a lovely surprise when it comes time to open it up!!!ReplyCancel

    • that’s right, the smallest of coins all add up and can help towards somethingReplyCancel

    • that’s right, the smallest of coins all add up and can help towards somethingReplyCancel

  • Brandymon

    My Son get to keep all the 50c pieces and it gets put into his bank account as a bonus… I collect $2 coins and in a bowl last year I got $800+ you don’t miss it when its thrown in (and yes I dipped it to it when I needed it on some days!)
    Also my parents put $2 coins in empty cans of soft drink and we get a can each at xmas time – it about $500 eachReplyCancel

    • ooh wow, that’s a lovely idea from your parents, it all adds up nicely.ReplyCancel

  • rpmarie

    Love this idea. We’ve got the kids using money boxes but not us. Thanks for the tip!ReplyCancel

    • It’s a good idea, you could put the money towards anything like fun for the family or pampering for yourselfReplyCancel

  • Vanessa

    We have been doing this for years! It’s paid for new stereo’s, holidays, and bills on occassion :) About September last year we also started saving $5 notes as well. By the time our QLD camper trailer holiday rolled around we had about $1500 saved! So far this year (after coming home from holiday absolutely flat broke, and not being able to put any money away until late Feb) we have put away $1600 towards another holiday :) ReplyCancel

  • Bella

    We’ve just spent three days cleaning out an elderly aunt’s flat. We found a jam jar of coins, all gold ones. My FIL insisted that it wasn’t worth worrying about, that there wouldn’t be much there, but when my elder son counted it out it was just over a hundred dollars. Even then he couldn’t admit that it was worthwhile. It was just a tank of fuel to him.

    We can get an awful long way on one tank of fuel.ReplyCancel

  • Amanda

    I put my coins in a tin the same as yours with the money note print. Each day that I use my purse, as soon as I get inside the house I put all coins in the tin. I have been doing this for 6 weeks now and so far I have my tin just over half way. Normally I would just toss the small coins in a plastic container and keep the gold in my purse. the silver was always used for the kids to buy lollies etc. Now, the kids have to earn the lollies, and twice a week if they have “earned” the privilege, we go to the shop and buy a small bag of lollies ( the kids are 3, 4 and 5 years old)
    now, they eat less lollies and I get “scrap money” saved so it adds up to good money :) We are saving for a trip to QLD for a holiday next year.ReplyCancel

  • Miss Maudy

    In my old job, for some reason we had to pay extra tax for one financial year – it was a small amount – maybe $10 a pay? not really noticeable and better than having to pay tax when the time came (it’s easier to ‘lose’ $10 a pay over a year than ‘find’ $260 at tax time!) and I never stopped doing it – nice little enforced saving/windfall each year. Thinking I should maybe start doing it again…ReplyCancel

  • sue

    We have had one that I have got my money for parking twice a week or coffee, just a flip top jar. But
    that sounds like a better idea to perhaps use for my christmas shopping, a jar that can’t be opened!ReplyCancel

    • definitely Sue, one that can’t be opened so then the money can be used for a specific purpose :) ReplyCancel

{The Stay At Home Mum Sanity Guide} Saving money, don’t overspend

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  • Mumof2

    Yes all meals planned. I brought a white board and it has Mon-Sun on it so i just fill in the blanks (its magnetic so its on the fridge) I absolutely love knowing what we are having so i don’t have to think that morning and its avoids buying takeaways too. A good tip if you’re always buying stuff online because its on sale and you don’t really need it is to unsubscribe to the emails. I’m am ignoring sales at the moment as i have a few bags of brand new clothing for the kids for summer and next winter already. Organised a bit too much here :) ReplyCancel

    • Just avoiding the shops is a great way to save too. Times have changed from my early days, I don’t enjoy shopping as much anymore, which has been a good thing for the budget!! Love your idea of unsubscribing, that will also help!ReplyCancel

  • Stacy

    I buy my son’s clothes on the winter and summer clearence sales, I buy everything the next size up and its usually all 50%-75% off the original price. I get a few plastic tubs from bunnings and label them Clothes size 3 and up for example. It costs a little bit at one time to do this, but it saves so much money in the long run. I usually do 2 shops a year like this one after our tax comes back and the other after the christmas sales (because everything is cheaper after boxing day week!). Then i only buy something for my son during the year if he actually needs it or if we are having a special occasion and I havent already go anything for him. It wouldn’t be as good for parents with kids who are older and who are into trends and that sort of thing, my son is 2 so he couldn’t care less at the moment, if it has trucks on it, it’s a bonus though! :) I love the blog!!ReplyCancel

    • That would save so much money Stacy, fab idea! A friend actually visited Kmart yesterday and called to tell me they had Pj’s there for $2 each and asked if I wanted some. But as I am on a weightless mission I didn’t know what size I will be next winter so decided no, but wow, that would of been an awesome saving. So pleased your enjoying the blog xReplyCancel

    • That would save so much money Stacy, fab idea! A friend actually visited Kmart yesterday and called to tell me they had Pj’s there for $2 each and asked if I wanted some. But as I am on a weightless mission I didn’t know what size I will be next winter so decided no, but wow, that would of been an awesome saving. So pleased your enjoying the blog xReplyCancel

  • Miss Maudy

    While my kids are both boys, and born in the same season, they’ve had completely different body shapes (one has a relatively long body and t’other is of more standard proportions, just super skinny) and have needed completely different sizes at different stages – the oldest would skip a size completely, the youngest would motor on through the sizes I had and *need* the size the older one skipped! I gave up on buying in advance because I’d invariably end up with brand new, complete with tags clothing that my youngest would grow out of before he even got into! So I go through their clothes each school holidays and cull/replace as needed.

    Meal planning makes my life a LOT easier but I suck at it – so instead, I decide what protein we’re having on a given night (including something for the Mister when he’s on night shift) and decide the rest on the night.

    Money saving meal planning tip is to do a Meat Inventory from the freezer, and plan meals and shopping from there.ReplyCancel

    • that would of made it hard to hand down clothes Maudy if they were very different sizes in different seasons. I agree it’s great to sort through their clothes regularly. Just organising the protein is a great start with the meal planning, fab idea with doing an inventory from the freezer, that would save quite a bit!ReplyCancel

  • Kirsty

    I’m really enjoying these posts! I do meal plans, but I do a fortnightly meal plan and keep it revolving and only change it per season or when we are sick of it. I love having a meal plan as I don’t have the agony of deciding what to have each night and also it is awesome for budgeting! On the budgeting side of things for groceries or anything else I cannot overspend as we don’t have credit cards so can only spend what I have, which isn’t usually much! So not having credit cards is a good budgeter! We have debit plus cards instead, so if we need/want to buy something online we can use that as the money comes straight out of our account.ReplyCancel

    • I love the idea of rotating the meal plans, I would prefer to do that, but I like mixing it up and finding new recipes to share with my Organised Housewife readers, plus I do love to cook… so its a win winReplyCancel

  • Julia K

    Another great post with some helpful tips !
    Temptation is such a big thing when boredom / loneliness creep in. Apart from staying away from the shops for recreational spending I find that I have to be very disciplined when it comes to the temptation of online shopping. Those % off offers and “look what’s new” emails pop into our inboxes oh so regularly and it is just so easy to click away and before you know it the budget is blown !
    If I’m trying to curtail recreational spending – I make a habit of UNSUBSCRIBING from a lot of the sites. When it isn’t waved under your nose – it is a lot less tempting to spend spend spend !ReplyCancel

    • I agree Julia, I unsubscribe from a lot of things and don’t join the loyalty clubs either as they tend to flood you with emails and sales. If I don’t know I don’t know what I’m missing out onReplyCancel

    • I agree Julia, I unsubscribe from a lot of things and don’t join the loyalty clubs either as they tend to flood you with emails and sales. If I don’t know I don’t know what I’m missing out onReplyCancel

  • Caris

    My number one tip is leave the shop! If you really want it, you’ll come back for it. Take the impulse out of impulse buying.ReplyCancel

  • Amy

    Unfortunately I vary between weekly menu planning and being disorganised and having a mad dash to the shops in the afternoon to get dinner sorted. I find that my life is so much less stressful when I know what I’m cooking each night for dinner. Then before I go to bed I look at my planner, transfer any meat needed from freezer to fridge and the next day is sorted. Planning what to eat is more of a chore than actually cooking the meal, so menu planning once a week is ideal for me.ReplyCancel

    • It can be time consuming that’s for sure, but after you have a few weeks worth of meal plans created you can just stick them in a folder and rotate regularly that way it will take the thinking out of it.ReplyCancel

  • MarkysMummy

    Great post as always! I have saved so much money meal planning and budgeting better on food! I do Woolies online shop but instead of completing it and paying I just print out my list and go in store and get it all! I find that way it calculates the specials and I can take my time and be smart!ReplyCancel

    • that’s a great tip, I also like to look at the catalogue as I meal plan so then I can plan meals using the food on special.ReplyCancel

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  • mumma milly

    this is a great post – always good to be reminded of the benefits of doing something as planning meals (even if you dont stick to which day they are on). Went shopping today with my meal plan/shopping list and only spent $85NZ instead of pushing $120NZ, granted Ill go back during the week to get more milk, or something that Ive forgotten, but definitely noticed the trolley included healthier foods, that would work towards meals rather than snacks! It is definitely going to take away the stress at dinner time (which there is a lot of at our house) deciding what to make when its already organised and I dont have to think hahaha thanks KatReplyCancel

    • that’s what I love about meal planning takes away the thinking. When I first started my hubby used to say, but what if I don’t feel like chicken for dinner on Wednesday. Now it’s just too bad, ya get what ya get. LOL.ReplyCancel

      • mumma milly

        exactly, or “if you don’t feel like chicken on Wednesday, then you cook!!!” (that normally shuts them up!)ReplyCancel

  • Rach78

    Hi Kat just wanted to let you know that I created the pantry door pin board and I LOVE it. I hang all the kids school notes and sports draws on there so even the kids know not to ask me but to just check themselves. I have also found on the budgeting department that if I go to greengrocer before I got o the supermarket I spend a lot less money on processed food and things I don’t need because much of my budget is already used. Also I have found that our greengrocers quality is far superior. By the way I live in a town of about 2000 people so it is a treat to have such a great shop available to us.ReplyCancel

    • that is awesome Rach, the board would surely help you and keep everything organised.ReplyCancel

  • Angelina

    I have been meal planning since I first had my kids 7 years ago before I even knew it was called “meal planning”, and I would not be without it now. I usually do a fortnightly plan on which I enter our various activities and commitments and then plan my dinners accordingly. On the days when I am not working and have some time,I try to cook a meal or two for the freezer and then on a day I know we will be busy I just pull out my dinner from the freezer the night before. Add a salad or veges and presto, dinner is served. Over the years I have found a few recipies that do double or triple duty, for example, a HUGE batch of napolitana sauce with meatballs for one meal, and the remaining sauce frozen for pasta bakes or to make chicken parmiganas, using the chicken schniztel I have made extra of another day. I also try to batch cook cakes, muffins and bisciuts too, so there is always something in the freezer for morning/afternoon tea. I’m sure my friends think I’m nuts but I find being organised really takes the stress out of my day. It saves me time and money and I don’t have that 4 o’clock frustration of “What’s for dinner?”
    By the way, am loving your posts Kat!!ReplyCancel

{The Stay At Home Mum Sanity Guide} Organising your bills and receipts

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  • Nicole

    I use a binder with sheet protectors. When a bill comes in, it goes into that month’s sheet protector. When it’s paid, I staple the confirmation to it and it goes to the back of the sheet protector. I don’t keep receipts like that, but I should.ReplyCancel

  • Wow, I’m nowhere near that organised but I do a fortnightly budget and factor all bills and direct debit transactions into each one. I then pay all bills due that fortnight on the first day that we’ve been paid so that i know there’s nothing outstanding for that fortnight. Gives me peace of mind! We have a very sophisticated (haha) system where all outstanding bills go on the fridge and after that I mark them with ‘paid’ and they eventually (didn’t say I’m perfect) get filed. Hopefully. Haha.ReplyCancel

  • Carly Joyce

    We have a computer desk drawer that doubles as a ‘pending’ filing system. All bills and junky ‘to do’ jobs get put in there and every Friday I empty the drawer and go through it. I set up the bills to be paid the day before they are due via internet banking and check the scheduled payments to ensure there is enough money in the account (we have a dedicated mortgage and bills account) for the bills coming out that week. We had previously worked out how much our bills were for the year and some of my hubby’s pay gets put into this account each fortnight to cover that amount. Each year around tax time we do a review and make any changes needed. Once the bills have been scheduled to be paid they are filed for one year.

    I definitely need to do something about the receipts though. I’m sure we could save a lot of money if I was a bit more on top of the miscellaneous stuff :) ReplyCancel

  • Hmm, this is something I need to get much better at. I have a good budget and balance it up every month based on the credit cards (largely), but I don’t tend to keep most receipts, and I don’t enter the actual money spent anywhere, which I’ve been thinking would be useful.

    Thanks for this Sanity post Kat, you’ve inspired me to take another look at our systems :) ReplyCancel

    • Keeping track of what you spend can really help when trying to save your money and you can see if you are overspending on electricity for example, if you find your bill is a lot higher than you budgeted or compared to last month then you know you need to switch off lights more often and watch how much you use the clothes dryer for example. Hope your new system helps!ReplyCancel

      • Thanks, me too :) I do keep track from month to month (like looking at the big bills and whether they match our budget – and as much as possible I have them direct debited monthly anyway), but it’s more things like the grocery bill I need to work on, keeping track over the month of whether we are staying within budget.ReplyCancel

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  • Lisa

    Kat – just wondering where you got your 6 white boxes from for storing your monthly batch of receipts in? Also, what size boxes do you find the best size for storing your EFY/tax in. Feeling very inspired to get our paperwork in order. {{{Thank You}}}ReplyCancel

  • Karen

    Really inspired. Thanks – I am starting today! Thanks KatReplyCancel

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{The Stay At Home Mum Sanity Guide} Family Household Budget

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  • Elizabeth36

    Wonderful series, Kat – thank you. I’m a work at home Mum, but feel I’m living your posts from trying to run the household to cleaning smelly toilets. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and wisdom. You’ve just reminded me to look at that budget this week and check on the bank.ReplyCancel

  • Jo-Anne Wizz

    Being on a Pension there is never enough money to buy the simplest things or luxuries!! Love the article, Great Work!!ReplyCancel

  • Louise

    Great Subject – Kat you should already mention to have a cup of coffee when your doing the budget hahaha :) My husband used to do all the bills and keeping track of them until he kept saying I’m spending lots here and there which naturally got me off guard and arguments started. On our excel sheet and couldn’t understand it, I started looking around and created a new one which gave me all the information that I needed and I soon realised that the spending of money started in the house & kitchen ie: meal planning. Once I started meal planning & using what was in the pantry I realised my food shopping was decreasing. As a SAHM we are the ones that control what goes on in the house and where the money goes, plus I don’t feel like I’m in Groundhog Day of toddler, nappies, food, cleaning etc. Now we are a happy household and we know exactly where all our money is going :) ReplyCancel

  • Renlish

    Thanks for this! I’m not a SAHM or even an M, but I’ve recently started working at a new place that involves a 25k paycut and I’m still spending money like I’m earning a wage which includes that 25k. Been needing a budgeting tool for a while and this looks fabulous. I know as a serial hobby-ist, I spend way too much on stuff that I want as opposed to need. Foolish but it’s easy to get used to when you have the extra dollars.ReplyCancel

  • Trina

    Awesome, i will be becoming a SAHM again as of november with the impending birth of your 2nd sweet baby. Trying to get my head around things again for this has been interesting. Great timing!!ReplyCancel

  • Rowena

    Thanks. This is so helpful. It is a struggle sometimes adjusting to one income and to go backwards.ReplyCancel

  • Amie McIlroy

    We recently sat down and redid our budget (after not looking at it for a year!) and we got a huge shock. We really needed to tighten our belts and get a hold of that spending. Things are settling now we have the budget but the urge to splurge still crops up here and there, but having the budget makes you stop and think.ReplyCancel

  • [...] Throughout the week I empty the receipts from my purse into my receipts bin, each week I add these receipts to the ‘actual spending’ tab in our household budget [...]ReplyCancel

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  • Anne At Home

    Hi Katrina, I am loving this series! I am really interested in your budget spreadsheets: I note that they are Excel but you say won’t work with Mac numbers – will they work on a Mac running Microsoft Excel? All other Excel programs seem to work fine for me. Thanks in advanceReplyCancel

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  • […] After I come home from a day of shopping I take all my receipts out of the shopping bags and file them into my receipts box.  Every few weeks (weekly would be preferable, but sometimes time gets away from me), we go through our receipts and enter our spending into our budget. […]ReplyCancel

  • Lisa

    I bought this but the spread sheet is locked for editing and excel wants a password to unlock it. Can anyone help as I cant use it!?!ReplyCancel

    • Ashleigh Louise Payne

      I am also having difficulty editing fields with “other” to say what I want them to.ReplyCancel

    • Ashleigh Louise Payne

      Hi Lisa. I found this problem only in the Actuals by Month sheet, but if I edited the same field in the Budget by Month sheet it changed both. This worked everywhere except the category headings. Hope this helps.ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Rogers

    It’s a big decision for some to stay at home. But for me, it’s dropped on me because our company will close our office and transfer to another country. Sigh.ReplyCancel